I saw someone saying that at her grandfathers funeral, everyone talked about his hobbies and his quirky personality and sense of humour but and her grandmothers funeral, everyone talked about how she was an amazing mother and wife and good at cooking and hosting. it’s so sad how women are largely remembered for how they served and cared for others rather than who they actually were as a person
I was watching a movie with my mother one time, and they were talking about a dead woman and how they remembered her because of the food she made for them, and I made an irritated, quippy comment about it, and my mother just said that she would like to be remembered as such. So many women just do not have dignity.



















