People give Eris shit for asking Rhysand for Nesta's hand and not her and honestly, fair, but there is another side to it.
Eris was raised in the Autumn Court and the whole scene took place in Court of Nightmares. He did was he was taught is respectful - asking the closest male relative (in Nesta's case it was her brother-in-law)
He was told it will be Nesta's decision and you remember what he did? Left her alone. Simply asked her if she came to decision next time they met.
Now, was he pissy when she rejected him? Absolutely. Definitely had to spend some time thinking about gravitational field of Cassian's schlong that ruined his chance for marriage TWICE. He didn't pressure her to marry him or even to "give him a chance", he didn't insult her - he insulted Cassian. He left her alone with an open door to "let him know if she changes her mind."
You know what Cassian did after being rejected? Insulted her repeatedly, stalked her and ultimately forced her to live with him 🙃
And honestly? If someone was stalking me I would be terrified of them. Traumatized Nesta is braver than me.
