The Human Desire To Escape
We all have our escape from reality, but we can only run so far from the pain, the mundane, and the disappointment that nips at our heels. In So Long, See You Tomorrow, William Maxwell writes a somewhat fictional, somewhat real memoir on events during his childhood (Apparently the author believes that not all his memories are accurate, haha). There is a place in the story where Maxwell goes to play and eventually meets his friend Cletus. This place is a partial frame of a house with strange artwork on the inside, possibly built by a group of artists, and here Maxwell can forget about his motherâs death, his fatherâs remarriage, and his struggles in school and use his imagination for hours on end. This act of falling in love with his imagination is a form of escape from his current circumstances that anyone can relate to. But⌠Is the act of escaping in order to avoid problems unhealthy or perfectly normal? We all feel the need to escape at one moment or another and we all do so in different ways whether it is through imagination, television, video games, and maybe even addictions. There is a healthy balance between escaping too much and too little that both exercises creativity and relieves stress without becoming a complete avoidance of problems. I have experienced the negative and positive aspects of escape in my own life, observed the problems of escapism in general, and evaluated the overall benefits of escapism, and included some of my own advice on the concept of escapism.
Has Peter Pan ever inspired you to fly to Neverland by jumping as high as you could on your trampoline? Now that was certainly a possible and real form of escape for my nine-year-old self, believing that flying was possible for anyone who had strong enough faith in magic and wonder, just as Peter said himself, âYou just have to believe.â I was an imaginative child (probably too much so haha) and I can relate to Maxwellâs childhood desire to escape. At school, I was rambunctious and energetic, but when I was by myself my imagination took flight. When life got hard and boring, it was so easy to escape into a fantasy book or an imaginary world where I was the onlooker of an enjoyable adventure. Those blissful times of escape allowed me to develop into a storyteller and a creative thinker by forming storylines and characters in my mind, teaching me to think with complexity. But there was something about chasing lions and rescuing princesses that helped me to forget, allowing imagination to become a source of hope with suffering on the back burner, a fake light, a fraud until reality came knocking. Now imagination is good, but reality shouldnât come knocking. Imagination should help you understand and make sense of reality rather run from it. My desire to escape got me into trouble in school. I never turned my work in on time because I was too busy staring out a window or wading through my own thoughts. At times I would get so lost in my own thoughts that my teacher would ask me a question with complete clarity and my response would be, âWhat?â and the teacher would constantly have to repeat herself because I struggled to drag myself away from my imaginative world. Escape is not necessarily bad, but at times it did take me away from the moment and kept me from learning effectively. There were also times, more so when I got older, when I would read several books in a week or binge on Netflix episodes instead of focusing on my relationships and responsibilities. These bingeing tendencies tend to take us away from our own stories and realities when not handled in moderation, and upon seeing that tendency in myself, I strove to be free from it.
Escape can take form not only in imagination and mind wandering but also in the form of an enjoyable outlet; however, such outlets can develop into negative habits when not handled in moderation. We do it all the time in our culture whether we believe it to be healthy or not. We devour Netflix seasons by night and consume YouTube clips by day. We leave our homes to sit in movie theaters and obsess over fantasy football from our couches. And after all this consumption and escape, are we not left feeling empty? I know I am. No matter how many times we try to escape and find fulfillment in our own imaginations we must always face reality again. People want to be part of every adventure except their own, even though their own is the most unique, interesting, and real. We are not courageous in dealing with grief, pain, and unmet expectations; instead of fixing problems we escape and escaping becomes an addiction and a crutch that we depend on instead of God, family, and work. Deadly forms of escape include serious addictions such as drugs and alcohol that destroy lives instead of acting as a healthy outlet for problems that need to be addressed. On Psychology Today, the following observation was noted about the effect of alcohol on relationships, âAlcohol abuse can affect your body both inside and out. Even though youâre unable to see the damage drinking causes to your internal organs, itâs important not to ignore the warning signs of alcoholism,â (78). There is certainly a negative effect of this extreme form of escapism that can destroy the lives of people rather than provide them the comfort and stress relief they need. Alcohol creates many more problems than it solves and is not a form of escapism worth depending on. Constant dependence on alcohol or other drugs not only affects the individual negatively but also family members and the workplace. Overall, escapism can be negative and very dangerous when abused or used out of moderation
Edgar Allen Poe reflects positively on the idea of escaping and dreaming by day, âThose who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night. In their gray visions they obtain glimpses of eternity, and thrill, in waking, to find that they have been upon the verge of the great secret.â Poe believes that those who escape daily into their daydreams are on the verge of understanding something great and wonderful, unseen by those who only dream during the night, allowing creativity to flourish and wisdom to grow. Just as Poe claims, escape allows us to dream and hope, allowing some of the greatest ideas to grow, fester, and form into the most world-renowned books and spectacular inventions. David Feldman writes in Psychology Today âFor many kids, fantasies form a basis for social activity with their friends, a way to explore their interests, and a vehicle for engaging in creative pursuits like drawing or storytelling.â There is a positive and effective side of escape that allows the mind to wander and discover the most incredible, creative solutions. Maxwell is the perfect example of the positive use of escape. He portrays himself as a dreamer with a big imagination, and that trait has certainly made him extremely successful. Along with dreaming, escape helps us to tolerate our current situations. Not that we should always escape current situations or resign ourselves to depending on negative forms of escape, but we all need an outlet of enjoyment as well. Maxwell certainly had reason to want to escape his situation with the pain he experienced, and I believe other people can from painful experiences can agree as well.
Escapism is part of reality, with both positive and negative forms; but how can we apply a balanced view of escapism into our everyday lives? In my life, I have tried to move toward more positive forms of escapism that are self-feeding and non-addictive. I was totally a Netflix binger and a romance book reader throughout my high school years, but those endeavors were fruitless to me as a person and after a few years I adapted different interests. Still being a book lover, I decided to focus on authors I could depend on for worthy content such as C.S. Lewis and Francine Rivers, whose books were deep and thought-provoking rather than only adventuresome and happy. Journaling also became an escape for me as I entered college. It was a harder hobby for me to learn, but it has become a habit now in my second year of college. Journaling allows me to escape circumstances while evaluating them at the same time, and when I look back at what I write, I feel that I am understanding myself as a person more and more. These changes in my own hobbies have been extremely helpful but here are some tips on escapism that I would recommend:
¡      Avoid addictive forms of escapism. Drugs and alcohol are obvious forms to avoid, but even television shows can be addictive. Exploring social media and watching YouTube videos are also addictive tendencies that can leave you entertained for hours.
¡      Focus on growth. Influence yourself positively with forms of escape such as reading, writing, exercising, starting a garden, and cooking. Such endeavors not only allow you to form a new skill, but they help you develop virtues such as patience and focus.
¡      Escape for the Right Reasons. Escaping to avoid making decisions or to procrastinate on work will not solve problems. Escape should be time set aside to relax away from lifeâs stressors, for reflection and growth.
 Escape into imagination and entertainment can be wonderful but also preventative against the onset of reality, but with a balanced approach to the concept one can have incredibly creative and stress relieving results. We escaped our lives as children and we still escape as adults. We go from imaginative play in our backyards and streets to video games in musty basements, to sports teams playing in large arenas. Sometimes we escape too much and other times not enough, but no matter what our experience happens to be, it certainly opens our minds to idealize for something exciting and wonderful and maybe even possible.
https://www.alcoholrehabguide.org/alcohol/effects/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/supersurvivors/201712/why-daydreaming-is-good-us