nico

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i haven’t posted on OF for a while. i’m sorry to the people who were kind and respectful who felt disappointed or let down by my inactivity on there. i truly appreciate your support, whether it be past support or ongoing. i also want to give a special thank you to the people who are still subscribed and have offered me patience while i figure out my next steps.

i had a reason for disappearing by the way — quite a few reasons, actually. i want to address them here because i know for a fact that i am not the first content creator in this space to deal with what i’ve dealt with. i hope i will be the last and change will actually happen in this space, but unfortunately that hope is not a high one and i doubt things will change much.

firstly, the content stealing and impersonation was really getting to me. my headspace became a very negative one due to this and i knew that i needed to take a step back once i started feeling like i had no control of the situation. i was losing my grip on the fragile sanity i had left and i knew i needed to take a break to pull myself together because i was really starting to lose my shit. secondly, i was dealing with messages daily of people degrading me and insulting me. if that’s what gets you off, good for you. i’m not one to judge. but i have made it very clear- both when i started my journey in this community and many times throughout this journey- that i am firmly not into degradation and do not consent to it. i have been vulnerable in sharing some traumatic experiences i have endured in my life that explain why that behavior triggers me and i hoped that people would understand and be considerate of those things. i was apparently very wrong and naive to hold such hope, which honestly is really disappointing. finally- and most terrifyingly of all- i began to receive threats of doxxing when i began calling out content thievery. i don’t know how genuine those threats were, but i wasnt willing to find out. i refuse to be bullied in a space that i once considered my “safe space”.

i have received a lot of support during my hiatus and many of you have been very kind, which i really do appreciate. i guess what im getting at is that i was just letting shit slide for a long time — stuff that i made clear that i was uncomfortable with. it’s hard to want to share something as vulnerable as my body and my sexuality with people online when i am being repeatedly disrespected in return. i know that i am not perfect and have made mistakes in the past, but some of these issues were looking less like “mistakes” as time went on and more like repeated bullying and abuse.

if people keep acting this way and getting away with it because creators are too afraid to speak up, sooner or later more people will be driven away and we’ll have no community at all. things need to change in the feedism space and in the general content creation space. please treat others with dignity and respect because you really never know what a creator could be going through behind the scenes.

i may make a return to posting on OF soon. idk. i’m still weighing the pros and cons. if i do, im going about things differently this time and will immediately take action against anyone who thinks this type of behavior is acceptable. it is not. respect boundaries and be more considerate please. your actions really do have an impact on others. respect is literally free so maybe it’s time to start taking advantage of it and utilizing it.

anyways, thank you for reading if you made it this far and i hope to see more consideration for your fellow humans in this community.

i will keep you all posted on whether or not i decide to come back and i’ll make a game plan from there. i hope this finds you all well and please please please just be nice to people. it’s not hard.

new pics + throwback stuffing video are up now!

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