Hotwives

Just our perspective ….

The wife sharing and hotwifing lifestyles have evolved within couples that are adventurous and very open minded sexually whereby jealousy is controlled or not a factor.

Wife sharing means the wife (or female partner) is allowed or encouraged to be lustful and enjoy hot sex with other men in front of her husband (or partner) and others, in many cases arranged by him. Hotwifing is an extension of this activity in that the wife will actively pursue and enjoy men sexually by herself with her partners approval and encouragement.

There is no doubt that women are just as sexual and promiscuous as men and they will gladly embrace such a lifestyle if it feels right for her. The husband will want his woman to enjoy her sexuality and gratification to the full with other men if he self confident and is secure in his relationship. He will take pleasure and pride in giving his beloved wife the breath taking excitement of enjoying passionate sex with other men who may be even be considerably younger and better looking than him with a bigger cock and nicer body who will likely fuck her better than he does.

The physical and emotional intimacy associated with hotwifing and wife sharing is something many have found to be an intense and rewarding experience, helping  improve the relationship by creating deep closeness and contentment.

Wife sharing

Wife sharing can certainly spice up a marriage helping both the partners explore their sexual sides, adding variety into their sex lives. For the husband, seeing his lovely woman with other men sexually will be a beautiful sight that will thrill and excite him. For her, enjoying sex a new partner is extra arousing in that her lover will kiss, feel and taste differently, including during foreplay and whilst fucking her. 

Many husbands  who live this lifestyle are sexually adventurous too and may have a bisexual nature. Sharing his wife with other men, watching and hearing her with them allows him to explore and appreciate his bisexual side. This might be simply be enjoying seeing a handsome man naked with a hard cock close up which may progress into having sexual contact if her lover is bisexually inclined too.

Hotwifing

A hotwife is a wife similar to the above, who may be shared with her spouse, but who also has the freedom as well as the desire for sexual encounters with other men by herself.  

It is a fact that in most  marriages, the couples sex life will wane slightly, not being what it used to be. After some time, women who have a high sex drive may start getting bored with her husband, doing the same things or he may have become unattractive to her. Hotwifing might be what is needed at such a point of in the relationship, a wife playing alone is naughty and adds spice to her relationship.

A woman will always feel very turned on when she has sex with someone new she is attracted to and she will treasure having exciting and adventurous sex without her husband being there. Hotwives  enjoy engaging in different  sexual activities and behaving differently with their lovers than they do with their partners. It gives them the chance to break from the routine, let themselves go and be sluttier.  

Other reasons a woman may choose to play alone may include the fact she doesn’t want her husband to see her being  too loving, passionate or kinky with other men and become jealous. She may simply enjoy different time alone, enjoying the pleasure of that feeling of excitement and infatuation common in the beginning of any new romantic or sexual relationship.

A husband man who understands this and loves his woman deeply will permit her to do this not only for a sexy adventure that he will get turned over but to give his wife something special; wonderful, memorable sexual experiences that will help make her blissfully happy and in turn him.

The hotwife lifestyle will give her new confidence, self esteem and boost her libido as she embraces this hedonistic lifestyle becoming more sexually experienced, fulfilled and happier in her life. The naughtiness of the situation adds to the pleasure, especially she grows into the role and begins to truly understand and exploit her feminine power.  She may be inclined to wear more revealing clothes and sexy underwear and on occasions an anklet to further add to the sexiness to indicate to those in the know that she might be a hotwife and might be available to them for sexy fun.

Typically, when she and her husband  return to each other, they will be invigorated in that  they will have new techniques to try and new sexy stories to talk about. Being permitted to share the explicit details of his wife’s intimate, slutty behaviour with other men she is excited by is something to be cherished intensely. It will drive him wild with lust and passion on a continuous basis. They will likely end up having better sex with each other as a result of her being a hotwife.

As a sexy hotwife she will be motivated to stay fit, eat healthy and look sexy to continue being desirable to men and her husband whom she will want to please her more than ever. His self esteem and happiness will increase too, enjoying  the feeling of empowerment, pride and increased sexiness both from his wife’s blossoming sexuality and the additional attention she pays to him.

This cycle of intimacy, sharing and trust can be the ultimate expression of love and affection between two self-aware and self-confident adults making their devotion to each other ever stronger. Undeniably for some, this is a beautiful lifestyle if their marriage is fully secure and they are confident in playing this game.

Cuckolding and Stags

The term cuckold has various meanings; commonly it means a man that enjoys a somewhat submissive relationship with his wife and her lover whereby he may like to be belittled, humiliated and made to feel powerless. Because of this fetishist behaviour (and there is nothing wrong with that, to each his own) many men living the wife sharing  and hotwifing lifestyles dislike the term cuckold and are completely put off and even hurt by the idea of being humiliated by his wife and or lover.

Therefore, significant number of men who wife share or have hotwives identify themselves with the term ‘stag cuckold’ or just ‘stag’, a term that has become established in this sexual sub culture. A stag is a self confident type who derives huge erotic pleasure from his wife or girlfriend being so alluring, he considers it only natural and very arousing that she’ll need and deserve sexual satisfaction from others as well as him. This behaviour ranges from merely sharing the fantasy and acting out role play scenarios to full on wife sharing / hotwifing on a regular or occasionally basis.

A stags usually hold a deep, genuine love and respect for his hotwife or girlfriend with whom he shares this erotic and fun lifestyle and she will treasure him equally.

A cautionary footnote

The hotwifing couple should never take things for granted, success depends on complete openness and honestly at all times. The husband will likely love his hotwife  and her sexuality to the point of obsession so it is crucial that she shares not only the explicit details of their sexual encounters but the day to day communications and meetings too.

She must recognise that her husband always comes first and never be tempted into secret conversations or meetings with her lovers without the knowledge of her husband for any reason. If the hotwife allows herself to begin falling in love with her lover, not just admiring and having affection for him, her lover will have to go and she should find another.

She will not  want to risk jealousy or ill feeling which could spoil their joyful marriage or threaten the freedom she enjoys.

Things change and so do people so it’s important that either the husband or wife has the power of veto, both over an individual man as a potential lover, a situation or event, or even the whole hotwife lifestyle. It’s a recipe for disaster to have a situation when the man feels uncomfortable about the guy she’s taken as a lover and she disregards this. Similarly, she should not feel pressured to have sex with others when she is not one hundred per cent happy to.

Unbreakable Rules:

1. HONESTY…NEVER lie about ANYTHING.

2. COMMUNICATE…Listen to his needs, after all your husband is letting you fuck other men, the least you could do is listen to and fulfill his sexual needs. My husband is a big dominate man but SEXUALLY loves to be told what I’m going to do & how he can’t pleased me, little humiliation is in some cases important to the husband ..so guess what ? That’s what I do.

3. NEVER become attached to a lover. DON’T let it happen EVER…FOR ANY REASON. If you do you’re an IDIOT.

4. If you have solo sex(only with his knowledge), return to your husband as soon as you’re finished fucking your stud so that he can have his wife, fresh AND NASTY from her encounter. Be a SLUT !

5.ALWAYS RECONNECT with him immediately after sex with someone else. TRAIN him to want to use you. That way he will encourage you to fuck other men for his satisfaction.

6. ALWAYS Give him respect in ur life

7. SHARE the experience with him. This is for the enhancement of your relationship and for mutually exciting sexual experiences….NOT to make other men feel good. Always make sure your hubby feels INVOLVED and SATISFIED and he will put you on a pedistal and let you be the slut you want to be. If husband not present you must video your time with your stud all the times. Ladies, is very important for your husband to feel satisfied make him go crazy for you. Be the nasty slut he wants you to be.

This is awesome. Just pure awesome. Thanks Albany Hotwife! 

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Techniques For Hotwives; I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Watching her get laid is pretty incredible.