Saw your post about RPF and Hudson Williams and I was likeâŚI agree
I understand being naive to the situation of fandom spaces and how they will absolutely bulldoze any boundary you have, and going oh what the fuck I donât want this this isnât safe for me anymore or the people I love. That is entirely understandable.
But itâs also likeâŚyou invited the vampire into your house thinking you two would just hang out and then hired him as your assistant despite knowing that if you invite him in, he could kill you.
You should have never trusted the vampire in the first place. You know what he was capable of. And you did it anyway. And now youâve been hurt.
I feel the same way about Taylor Swift. She fostered an incredibly parasocial relationship from early on and then when she had enough success she decided she didnât want it anymore (while still being incredibly parasocial with her own fandom being itâs so intertwined into her branding it canât ever be dismantled.) I also understand the safety aspect and people being so deranged online. But itâs also likeâŚcan we take at least some accountability for the consequences of the actions we chose to make ourselves?
Itâs such a weird media landscape today in general. Social media is just so fucking invasive even for me as a normal person that I stopped using it. I canât imagine the INSANITY that is being famous and being kind of forced to feed into certain things and having to try and find a balance so you can still be a human with the privacy we all deserve.
Itâs just fucked all around. People should know to keep RPF to RPF spaces. That includes the people the RPF is about.
I feel really bad for his girlfriend. Because honestlyâŚI would not have it in me mentally to put up with this. Sheâs a lot stronger than I will ever be.
Fame is a curse I honestly wouldnât wish on anyone.
Anyways sorry for the rant â¤ď¸
i agree with a lot of what you said, but i would like to point out that someone who has always dreamed of being a celebrity (or at least an actor) cannot be that naive about parasocial relationships with fans nor do i believe he wasn't adviced on how to handle them.
he still chose to get involved with our spaces (again, made by fans FOR fans), using them to make himself more popular, and then, when they no longer suited him, shit on them.
about his gf, i try not to comment on her bc she is not a public figure, but yeah, if my bf was publically feeding into the rumours that he is fucking his co-star (something that is not uncommon in hollywood btw), i would be angry too.