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but everyone else actually admires it because of the delicious plum on its back that it can’t see

anyway, I’m going on a second date with a girl soon and couldn’t help but think “Why would she want to keep going out with me?? I’m like, so weird and a little crazy.”

My Brain: Don’t say it

Don’t say it

Don’t say it

Don’t say it

Don’t say it

Don’t say it

Don’t say it

Don’t say it

Your late teens/20s are a weird time in your life. Don’t panic if you think somebody is more “ahead” than you. The concept of being ahead is nonexistent anyway because life’s not a race and each person has different hurdles to overcome.

It’s totally fine if you’re single. It’s fine if you’re still finishing school. It’s fine if you are still looking for a better job, or for any job at all. It’s fine if you haven’t had sex yet, or haven’t gotten your driver license yet. It’s fine if you haven’t gotten your own place yet. It’s fine if you are still figuring things out, saving money, putting the pieces together. It’s fine.

Don’t feel jealous of or lesser than people your age who have done these things. You don’t know what obstacles they faced to get there and they don’t know what you’ve faced. Don’t undermine the progess you have made.

Because, trust me, you have made progress. Even if it hasn’t materialized yet in the traditional way.

You are still young. Like really young.

1. Yes, Seungri is innocent until proven guilty, but we will not say that the evidence is pretty damaging. With text, apparent videos, and other celebrities involvement, we all know when there is smoke there is fire. So to pretend he’s Jesus being nailed to the cross is unlikely because too much of this leads to the commonality of Seungri. Also, this is not just something that started a year ago, the proof goes back as far as 2013.

2. To blame these women is beyond me. I do not understand anyone who blames any woman on those videos when they were victimized and filmed without consent. They had no clue that this would be shared and most likely did not want to be monopolized by these men. Also, do not pretend that men of power do not have authority of these women. Maybe he didn’t threaten them, but with power comes a fear that could easily influence women to do exactly what you want. Do not make them seem as if they were happy hookers or some shit.

3. Finally, the audacity of people to say “remember what happened to Jonghyun” is fucking disrespectful. Jonghyun was not a criminal nor accused of anything during his time of death, and his mental health did not make him do anything illegal. Seungri, however, put himself in these position and needs to deal with the consequences. He did this to himself, he’s not the victim, and to compare his situation to a man who literally never did anything wrong is beyond me. Jonghyun battled himself, Seungri battled the law. Don’t ever make it seem like Jonghyun’s suicide could happen to Seungri when the commonality is not the same.

As a VIP, I understand the disappointment, confusion, and anger. However, holding Seungri’s hand is not helping, but is enabling him to engage in horrible or risky behavior that is bringing harm to women. Being a member of the worlds best K-Pop group brings not only power, but all that comes with it, and he should understand whether he’s guilty or not, he should have not even put himself in a situation to risk himself and the women around him. 

thank you … for allowing your daughters to be involved in this mess … for trusting me.