Just putting the pieces to this puzzle together.

I guess this is why straight men don’t like to talk about their issues with friends because it always turns into a joke. 

this absolutely broke my heart. 

Disclaimer: A couple months ago, I used to be in a very bad state of mind. I was struggling with depression, an eating disorder and very very low self esteem. I would see these sort of tips and automatically thought “bullshit”. But one day, I gave those tips a chance, and a promise you that my life is changing. I still have dark days and I’m not 100% happy, but I’m slowly getting there!

- Tip #1: Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you

Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. Would you feel happy if someone walked up to you and told you “you are useless, you are ugly, etc…”? Obviously not, so why do you say these negative things to yourself?

-Tip #2: Stop saying negative comments about yourself 

Like tip #1, stop saying negative shit about you. Even if it’s ironic comments like “I want to kms” or “I look so fat all the time”. When you say those things, you subconscious mind absorbs it, and the horrible things that you are saying probably have a chance of becoming true if you keep saying and believing them.

-Tip #3: Say positive things about yourself, even if you feel ridiculous

Say positive things about yourself. Look in the mirror and tell yourself “wow i look hot”, “wow i’m so beautiful”, etc… And even if your surroundings try to bring you down, let’s say if your grandma tells you that you gained weight, reply with something like “what do you mean? I look beautiful and I have a perfectly healthy body, I’m beautiful, etc…”. Even if you feel ridiculous saying those things, your subconscious mind will absorb these facts and they will become true and you will end up believing in them and become confident! You can even write  down those positive comments. 

-Tip #4: Be thankful:

 Even if you feel like your life isn’t the best, try and still be thankful for the things you have. You don’t need to believe in God to be thankful. I don’t believe in God but I am still thankful for having a roof on top of my head, having food, access to water, a supportive family, etc.. You can write those things down if you want to.

-Tip #5: Have small goals everyday:

Every morning when you wake up, set at least 3 goals for the day. It can be the smallest goals, like: do 20 squats, or: drink a smoothie, or: make your bed. Whatever those goals may be, they will help you do something, get out of bed and feel like you accomplished something. The more smaller goals you achieve, the more you will be able to achieve you bigger goals in the future!

-Tip #6: Visualize what you want:

Visualize or write down the life you want. If you write it down, write in the present tense as if you already have everything and focus on your emotions and how these things make you feel. And while you do so, don’t think “I wish I had this life”, think: “I have this life and it makes me happy”. Once something is true in your brain and subconscious mind, it will become true physically. You will manifest what you want. (keep your goals realistic though)

-Tip #7: Spread positivity:

What you let out in the universe, you will get it back. The more compliments you give out, the more compliments you will receive. The more money or gifts you give out, the more you will receive. The more good vibes you give out, the more you will receive. However, the more negativity you give out, the more you will receive. 

-Tip #8: Live as if you already have your dream life.

Wanna be happy? Smile more, surround yourself with good people, get rid of all things, people, or habits that make you unhappy. 

Wanna lose/gain weight? Start buying clothes of the desired size you want to fit in.

Wanna have a partner/soulmate? Stop being desperate and living the stereotypical life of crying and eating ice cream in front of love movies, and start living your life as if you already have someone, but that someone is you. Once you stop focusing on that empty stop next to you and living life as if you already have everything you want, I promise you that you will attract someone.