tread softly

Is it better to keep someone you’re in love with in your life as a friend and let it kill you to see them love someone else, or to let them go?

“Two and a half years later, we sit across from each other. How are you? You ask. Well. I say. What I want to say is: I don’t really know what I’m doing here. Or, rather, you haven’t changed a bit. Or, you look exactly the same as on the day you left. I am stuck between keeping my distance and treating you the way I used to. Letting down my guard completely. It is so easy to slip into. But I could never do it if you didn’t do the same. We swap stories; updates. Everything seems so superficial. I don’t dare ask if these days you are happy. Though, I hope that you are. I tell you that I’m moving to a different city next month. You comment on the different colour of my hair. I don’t tell you that sometimes I still think about the way that you left. That it still colours my relationships; that I still worry that some happinesses are too good to be true. You tell me that your parents are getting divorced. You’ve finally realised that love never lasts. I don’t say anything. I have no evidence to the contrary. Yet, after a while, I say I think you’re wrong. You shrug your shoulders and let it fill the silence. Once, we would have argued for hours. As you stand to leave, I realise that I am no longer in love with you. I no longer know you. You are a stranger in a familiar body. And yet I do not recognise your hands. If you touched me now, I do not know whether it would feel like fire or ice. Maybe both. Maybe neither.”

How do I move on if I never got closure?

In a relationship, is it right to demand the same level of love and energy that you are giving to your partner?

How do you know when you love somebody?

can you please write about long distance love. i'm dating a boy who lives abroad, I'm seeing him again in a couple of weeks but all i can do is think about him and honestly i think i could die from the pain. i know it's not feasible to live like this but even loving him through the distance means more to me than anyone here.

Do you believe in right person wrong time?

How would I know if I'm in love?

“One day you will have had a really good day and you will call to tell me about it but when I answer the phone I’ll be crying, and suddenly you’ll feel angry. You will think, “why does she always have to be so sad? Why must she seek so much attention?” You’ll ask, “what’s wrong?” but you won’t listen. You might even put the phone down and make yourself a cup of tea. When the call goes silent you’ll come back and say, “I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough day.” And I’ll say, “ I’m sorry I keep going on about me. How was your day?” And you’ll start talking but you’ll talk a little too fast because you didn’t want to listen but now you feel guilty. And in the end, this is how we will go, with a toxic mix of guilt and indifference. And in the end, I hope you don’t blame me because I won’t blame you. I won’t blame you.”