uncanney valley girl [23]

My favorite studies I read today were about aces who engage in BDSM (Sloan, 2015) and about how aces experience intimacy in their lives (Dawson, McDonnell & Scott, 2016). You can find both articles in shadow libraries.

An interesting point from the Sloan (2015) study is that the negotiation involved in BDSM offers aces a space where they can directly say that they have no interest in sex and/or what kinds of sexual activities are (hard) limits. Some of the participants framed it as "sex is just another kink".

train out your gag reflex and replace it with a gspot in your throat

have bimbo cow tits with nipples so sensitive you can cream during a milky titfuck

Ive been meaning to answer this! Ok so for me ive only done actual intox with my partner, ive had like tipsy hookups before i was with him, but i wouldn't consider that the same as an intox kink scene. You need to actually talk and establish boundaries ahead of time while sober. You should already know likes and dislikes generally, but its also worth asking while youre both sober if yall want to go along with new things that might come up during the scene. Like maybe when ur sober and not in a kink headspace you dont really love degradation, but for some reason when ur high and in subspace you want it really fucking badly. Ask each other ahead of time if you feel comfortable playing along with a situation like that or if you wanna side step it until you're not intoxicated.

How do you know if theyre too out of it to safeword- 1) start small 2) make them practice

1) dont get super crazy drunk/ high for sex, especially when starting out.

2) literally most underrated foreplay ever is making ur partner practice saying no. Touch them, kiss them, do your standard foreplay stuff, and instruct them to randomly safeword or tell you no. As soon as they do, you stop everything and praise them for it, like "Thank you so much for stopping me, you're such a good boy. Wanna keep going?" And then continue as you were. Have them practice safewording like 3-5 times over the course of kinda intensifying foreplay as a good clarity check. Then signal the "game" is over somehow, like saying "ok, ready to go for real now?" This is fun even just for any new kink endeavor btw (i did this a lot with bondage at first!). Its really just to make it feel less scary for both of u to safeword/ react to a safeword, and build trust that youll actually stop immediately, plus it reminds them its an option even if theyre a lil out if it.

you can reduce the risk by doing what OP suggested, and by making sure you both are familiar with how the intoxicated person responds to the dosage of substances they plan to take (e.g., if you've only ever taken 10mg edibles, don't take 20 for the first time during an intox scene). but there is always a risk that something goes wrong. you should discuss safety plans for what you would do if this happened, for both the sub and dom.

if your immediate thought as a dom is "well, if i accidentally violated someone's consent, i'd never recover and just kill myself immediately", i would strongly suggest you not engage in this type of play. accidental consent violations happen in kink, even when everyone does everything right. so do your best to do everything right, and talk through what happens if things go wrong anyway.

also, while of course everyone get to decide the boundaries for their own play, it's generally considered best practice not to widen the scope of your play mid-scene. for example, if you explicitly agreed to no penetration during the pre-scene discussion, but the sub asks for penetration during the scene, it's best to honour the original boundaries and save that for a later scene. (the inverse, on the other hand, is fine—if you agreed to penetration beforehand, you can absolutely withdraw consent for that mid-scene.) the heightened emotion and adrenaline during a scene can impact your ability to make sound decisions, and it's easy to get carried away and agree to things outside your risk profile in the heat of the moment. especially important in an intox scene where you're literally chemically influencing your brain! remember you can always do more in the future, but you can't undo an impulsive decision.

Let them tie me up and drug me just enough for me to be unable to resist anything they want to do to me. Feel them gently brushing my hair, dressing me up, calling me sweet names like "prince" and "boydoll", all that while I'm blinking heavily bare registering what's happening until I feel them opening my legs.

Of course, I would blush at first, having them see such an intimate part of me, trying to squirm when the feel the vibrators invading my holes and another one pressed against my cock, the chastity belt keeping everything in place when they finish dressing me up.