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The Rodeo Rule: you only have to do it for the first time once.

The Rohan Rule: if you are at a social function full of new people and you want to be liked, find someone doing important work like setup or food prep and offer to help.

The Tutorial Mode Rule: to navigate an unfamiliar situation where you fear you will mess up an interaction, preface the interaction by mentioning that you've never done this before, and let them know if you have a specific concern or question.

The Rocket Science Rule: most new things you want to try seem very complicated but are simple when taken step by step.

The [X] Will Remember That Rule: if you need to make small talk with the same person on a regular basis, try to save one fact or current event in their life from a given conversation and bring it up next time you talk.

The Golden Girls fashion -> every Dorothy outfit

No! In this home we stand with Zofia Adamczewska.

"Just making sure you're not gonna disappear for another six years."

2.03 Do The Right-est Thing Ted Lasso [2020 -]

I'm afraid this documentary about Nelly Mousset-Vos and Nadine Hwang may be geolocked for some, which is unfortunate because it's a moving watch.

We know why. Because they were women, in love.

Nelly & Nadine follows the granddaughter of Nelly Mousset-Vos, an opera singer born in 1906 who was a member of the resistance army for which she was imprisoned for 2 years in concentration camps, going through Mousset-Vos' effects and discovering/unearthing that her grandmother loved and lived with Nadine Hwang, a Chinese-Belgian daughter of a diplomat, whom Mousset-Vos met in the concentration camp at Ravensbrück.

Mousset-Vos left behind journal accounts of her experience in the camps, and photos and film of her life with Hwang in Caracas, Venezuela.

This was the moment I understood Hwang moved in the gayest of circles possible.

We hear Mousset-Vos's own words, the concentration camp portions heartbreaking to listen to, and see the documentation of their lives and life together. It's stunning and tender. Much of the film that exists was recorded by Nadine behind the camera.

The documentary tracks the present as much as the past and coming to recontextualize and understand the homosexual reality these women and their friends and peers lived--the love that dare not speak its name, truly, in that generation--and how this newfound knowledge and these women's resilience pay forward to inspiring and appreciating the greater visibility and acceptance/tolerance of today.

They were "cousins." They were "roommates."

Highly recommend if you have an available 90 minutes.

From Nadine Hwang's wikipedia entry:

Nadine Hwang, or Nadine Huong (Chinese 黃訥亭); (March 3, 1902 – 1972) was one of the first Chinese female pilots and served in the Chinese Air Force as an honorary colonel. She was at one point in a relationship with Natalie Clifford Barney and survived deportation to the Ravensbrück concentration camp. Nadine Hwang was born in Madrid, to a Belgian mother, Juliette Brouta-Gilliard, and a Chinese father, Lühe Hwang. Both her parents were Catholics. Hwang was baptised in June 1902 in Madrid, in the parish church of Nuestra Señora del Pilar. Her father, who came from an influential Chinese family, was a diplomat and high official. In 1904 he was briefly transferred to Havana, where in 1905 Hwang's sister Marcela (later known as Marcela de Juan) was born. A few months later, the whole family returned to Madrid, where Hwang's father had been appointed head of the Chinese delegation.

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