Hi! If any of you follow me on instagram (@jennettemccurdy, proud plug) youâll know that Iâve been on quite the self-love kick lately. Itâs true. I donât hate myself, as crazy as that sounds.
And thatâs just the thing of itâŚ. why does it seem crazy or hokey to express self-love? Why do we sometimes view it as false or put-on? Well, I think because we arenât loving ourselves. Any time in the past when Iâve snickered or laughed off someoneâs seemingly grandiose view of themselves (itâs happened more than a few times), it is only because I myself felt small.Â
Nowadays, I really do sense more positivity and uplifting messages in the world, but yet there is still this wide net popular idea of glorified self-depracation, used to make the deprecator seem cool/self-aware/in touch/humble. Iâve come to believe that this just isnât true. Putting yourself down or acting like youâre not that great is just not that great. You are depriving yourself of the love you most deserve - your own.
In the past, I have been quick to brush off a compliment or attribute a success to some chance luck. I could easily poke fun at myself or apologize for no real reason. I was the mistress of self-deprecation. Even many of my tweets and vines came from a place of a lighthearted discontent with myself. Sometimes I feared losing that self-disrespect because honestly, I felt I would lose my sense of humor, and that is something I really appreciate in myself. (In case you didnât know, I am hilarious.)
Well Iâm here to assure you, whatever you may be worried about losing if you ditch your self-deprecation, whether it be humor, kindness, humility, friendliness, etc. YOU WILL NOT. You could never lose that beautiful part of yourself by losing the ugly part that is self-deprecation. In fact, whatever youâre worried about losing will shine that much brighter when you lose the self-effacing because it will have the room to grow and come from a more mature, seasoned place. Your kindness will be deeper, your humor will be richer, your friendliness will be purer, and you will absolutely feel a difference.
With time, perspective, and lots of looking inside, I am proud and happy with how much Iâve grown and who Iâve become. I enjoy my company, smile for no reason, and am able to accept love from others in a purer way because their love is simply additional to that which I feel for myself.
Now before I get too far ahead of myself, let me explain. I think that in NO WAY should bragging/conceit/arrogance be mistaken for self-love. That is the opposite. The only reason people feel a need to be over the top with any of those qualities is because they are deeply deprived of their own nurturing, or so I believe.
From my heart I just hope these words are encouraging to you. I hope you find them empowering and take a few minutes to think about how you behave and why you behave that way. Donât do anything for the approval or acceptance of others. Accept yourself and watch your world shine. I ainât kiddinâ.
LOVE YOURSELF <3
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