quoi?!.

I think one of the gentlest things in the world is when a friend just gets your weird little brain. like you say half a sentence and they finish it. you reference something incredibly niche from seven years ago and they’re already nodding. they understand your strange vocabulary for emotions that don’t have real words yet. it’s being seen and known and still loved. maybe especially because you’re known. god. what a gift.

y'all made me watch zuko let katara touch his scar but i wasn't supposed to ship them ?? shut up

rlly fascinating phenomenon to me is when a character is extremely popular, and that popularity seems understandable enough because they've got something interesting going on, and then you look at the fandom and realize 99% of their fans don't actually care about engaging with any of the things that make them interesting and instead seem to be fans of an imaginary milquetoast version that exists solely for ship and/or angst content and is so far removed from the canon character they might as well be an unrelated OC at this point

category of blorbo called "technically i like them but fanons obsession with them to the exclusion of other characters pavloved me into having a negative reaction whenever i see them"

The whole “male loneliness epidemic” thing is so crazy because feminists have been talking for decades about how gendered socialization has many negative consequences for the psychology and personalities of men (literally what the term “toxic masculinity” refers to) but now we’re letting the alt-right misconstrue this “epidemic” into something New so that they can blame feminists for it and make it about how Actually we need to Go Back to rigid heteronormative patriarchal gender norms in order to Save Men, even though that’s exactly what was making society miserable and lonely in the first place! It’s so screwed. Can we ever actually confront, address, and resolve societal issues like as a species or are we just doomed to misunderstand the assignment forever. Why do the dumbest most bad-faith operators in every debate get to hijack every last earnest attempt by smart and well-meaning people to improve human welfare. Why do we live on a planet of adult toddlers

i’m gonna say something that doesn’t feel good but you might need to hear it: bending over backwards being a people-pleaser, being conflict averse and not telling anyone your needs, and then being resentful and upset when your needs aren’t met is a You problem first

not related but also just good advice: when you’re lowkey frustrated with someone and can’t quite figure out why their behavior is bothering you, i highly recommend examining if they have broken an imaginary rule or standard that you hold yourself to