Dolly ╋━

why do you all hate women who are sexually submissive? i control everything in my life, im an 18 yr old who has to figure out how i’m going to eat every other day, i have to figure out how i’m going to pay bills because grandfather spent all his money on drugs this month again, i have to figure out how to be home yet not home too much so he doesn’t burn the house down and so i can get my education/go to work. i have to be dominant in my day to day life, i don’t wanna be dominant in the bedroom— and that doesn’t make me male centered, that doesn’t mean i’m not a feminist and that doesn’t mean i want my human rights taken away.

wether i am being exploited or not i still have to mother a mentally disabled, dementia patient, drug addicted old man and take care of everything that happens in and too my household— that is being in a “dominant” or leading position no matter what you want to consider the true intent, i pay all the bills, i work like a dog to keep a roof over my head, i fix the issues with the water heater and the fences, i have to do the heavy lifting, i pay for food, i have to do all the mental work. please don’t ever tell me all my hard work i do to keep myself alive is “exploitation” simply because i am a woman. me wanting to be submissive in the bedroom to escape these things is not an issue and i don’t believe it should be shamed. i never said these men care about me or my wellbeing but i don’t talk to those men regardless or specifically seek out men who have clearly more than just a kink for being sexually dominant in the first place. me being sexually submissive doesn’t mean i go around opening my legs for just anyone ESPECIALLY considering how men are when given the opportunity to be in dominant positions. nor does it mean i am letting men take any of that hard work away from me, most sexually submissive women are women who are in dominant or controlling positions to begin with. it feels good to let go and finally not have to be in control, it feels good to not have to worry about whatever is happening in my life atm.