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I've never done one of these before, did I do it right.

To help get #aromantic trending I've come up with an ask game. Don't forget to tag you answers with #aromantic!

What's your favorite part of being arospec?

What's your least favorite part of being arospec?

Favorite color?

Favorite color from the aromantic pride flag?

Favorite pride flag, arospec or not,m

Favorite arospec blogger?

Ever been to a pride event?

Aro culture is....?

When did you realize you were arospec?

Have you come out to anyone? If so, who?

What do you think the biggest misconception is surrounding aromanticism?

What's your advice to someone questioning they are arospec?

Do you know other arospec people? (Online or off)

If you could change the aro flag, would you and why?

What's a movie that you get aro vibes from?

What's a song that you get aro vibes from?

What's a book that you get aro vibes from?

Favorite arospec meme?

Frogs, turtles, or kangaroos?

perhaps the issue I'm complaining about is that its hardly a choice right now but to eventually marry 👍 i do not want to marry. i do not want to be in a legally recognized relationship with ANYONE. i want to have an actual fucking choice in the matter.

it also actually doesn't matter if I change my mind in the future. I Deserve To Have A Choice. Everyone does.

the "choices" we have these days are to struggle financially and/or not have children (among plenty of other things) OR to marry

@stupidcupid06 a blog primarily known for posting polls asking for peoples opinions on things posted a poll accompanied by a screenshot of a text conversation between a man and a woman. the man says hes not prepared for commitment but he liked spending time with the woman and liked having sex with her so he asks if she would be interested in an exclusive friends with benefits relationship. the poll asked viewers how they felt about it, with options like "modern romance" and whether or not they would say yes in that situation. it divided a lot of people. some people pointed out that theres nothing inherently wrong or controlling about exclusive fwbs for a number of reasons, he couldve been concerned about stds/stis, some people suggested he couldve been aro or that they related to him because they were aro and would enjoy a relationship like that. people jumped on the opportunity to be aphobic in response, and the notes of that post devolved into queer discourse, causing the op of the poll to make one simply asking "are cishet aro men lgbt". this is stoked the flamed even more. people kept showing their arophobic and sex negative, slut-shamey opinions out in the open.

op of that poll would later reveal that there was more context to the original screenshot that proved the man was a bad dude. almost nobody who saw the initial poll had that information, because the op deliberately chose not to include it in the beginning. still, this emboldened people to claim that the aros and aro allies defending themselves against aphobia were actually defending an abuser anf that they were misogynists for doing so.

@stupidcupid06 a blog primarily known for posting polls asking for peoples opinions on things posted a poll accompanied by a screenshot of a text conversation between a man and a woman. the man says hes not prepared for commitment but he likedspending time with the woman and liked having dex with her so he asks if she would be interested in an exclusive friends with benefits relationship. the poll asked viewers how they felt about it, with options like "modern romance" and whether or not they would say yes in that situation. it divided a lot of people. some people pointed out that theres nothing inherently wrong or controlling about exclusive fwbs for a number of reasons, he couldve been concerned about stds/stis, some people suggested he couldve been aro or that they related to him because they were aro and would enjoy a relationship like that. people jumped on the opportunity to be aphobic in response, and the notes of that post devolved into queer discourse, causing the op of the poll to make one simply asking "are cishet aro men lgbt". this is stoked the flamed even more. people kept showing their arophobic and sex negative, slut-shamey opinions out in the open.

op of that poll would later reveal that there was more context to the original screenshot that proved the man was a bad dude. almost nobody who saw the initial poll had that information, because the op deliberately chose not to include it in the beginning. still, this emboldened people to claim that the aros and aro allies defending themselves against aphobia were actually defending an abuser anf that they were misogynists for doing so.

i believe i know what love is, and i don't experience it

i do not understand what love is, so i choose not to use that word

i do not experience emotions strongly enough to label any of them as love

i experience love, just not as much as i think other people do

i experience love, but i agree/identify with the loveless philosophy

not loveless/results

*(author's note here, to be clear: you should be worried about those things! just asking moreso about what people's ultimate fantasies are.)

(also, when i say "relationship" in this poll without any modifiers, i mean romantic and queerplatonic ones.)

one partner who i am in a closed relationship with

multiple partners who i am in relationships with

one friend

multiple friends

a person or people who's relationship to me is purely sexual

complete strangers

something else (tags?)

i do not want to have sex with other people despite being allosexual

not aroallo/results

To try to explain what the main differences are meant to be between just being comfortable telling, and avoiding it unless it comes up- The first one is like, you would mention it in casual conversation with little to no prompting. If someone brought up a topic related to romance or romantic attraction, would you feel okay dropping that you're aro? Could you start talking about it as casually as many non-aros talk about their experiences?