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Pizza diaper delivery (by Peepants X)

To my fellow subs, pups, and slaves, gimps, furries, kinksters, and littles; to any identity you claim or feel or discover:

You may not need to hear these words, but there are far too many out there who run headlong into this world without any understanding. I may be reiterating things that have been said a thousand times in more coherent and eloquent ways. But too often I see or console or offer advice to those who have learned these lessons through experiences that I don’t want to imagine.

This isn’t exhaustive, and you may not agree with every one of them. These ideas do not come from a place of selfishness. They apply whether or not you identify as submissive, Dominant, or anywhere in between. It is not meant to inspire fear or cynicism. It is not meant to create self-doubt or generalize “Dominance” as heartless and uneducated. These ideas come from a place of self-love and self respect. If you have a problem with that, you have no place in my world.

If you can take one thing from it, whether validation of your own knowledge, or a deeper understanding of yourself, please know that you don’t have to face any of it alone.

In this, the “Dominant” is in general reference of any identity therein (whether Sir, Master, Handler, etc.)

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Take the time to learn yourself before you allow others to control you. Whether you’re just discovering your submissive identity, or you’re a pro, you can always benefit from introspection. Your relationship with a Dominant is only made stronger with a better understanding of yourself and your needs. No one is ever entitled to your submission. I’ll say that again: NO ONE IS EVER ENTITLED TO YOUR SUBMISSION. Anyone who approaches you with the idea that they deserve you without so much as a conversation should be avoided. It is in your best interest to protect yourself, regardless of how exciting and enticing it may be to have someone assert such control. Seek your community. Whether its a local one, or something you find online, seek out a community of like minded people. Not only will this give you an opportunity to meet and befriend others who understand you, it is also for your protection. Your community is your safe place. We take care of our own. Make friends with other submissives. We understand each other better than most. You know things I don’t. Seek advice and care from others without an ulterior motive. I may not be able to tell you what to do, but I can always try to help. Communication is everything. Seek a method of feedback that your Dominant can respect, whether positive or constructive. Anyone who assumes they know everything or can do no wrong is too insecure to admit their own flaws. Safe words are great, but that will only get you so far. You know what enhances or pulls you out of your headspace. Tell them. Consideration periods are not simply to determine “whether you’re good enough” or “whether you deserve” something. They are an opportunity for you to examine your own compatibility and headspace prior to engaging in commitment. They are one of the best tools you have to truly put yourself into a healthy and engaging environment. If it doesn’t work, speak up. You always have the right to leave. Pretty damn self explanatory. Make sure you understand YOUR limits. To push through them is one thing, but you need to understand that too far can be too far. Learn how to say no in a way that enhances your relationship and mutual understanding. And if that isn’t respected? You always have the right to leave. You deserve respect, too. It may be shown in different ways. You may like to be called horrible names and treated like dirt. But unless you’ve gotten to the point where you feel safe in that space, don’t let someone walk all over you, regardless of their assumed Dominance. Take. Your. Time. Especially for those newer to discovering their submissive headspace, every person who validates that headspace will seem good to you. Just because someone offers you a collar does not mean you take it. Be careful. Ownership is first and foremost about trust. I understand the need; its an innate desire to give up control to the first person who tries to take it from you. But submission is not taken, it is earned. Give yourself the time and make sure their investment in you is equal to your investment in them. If you need a break, take one. Sometimes you just need to give yourself an opportunity to refocus. Take a step back from all of it and breathe without fear of control or retribution. Have the self awareness to know when you need it. Explore what you feel. Don’t let yourself be defined by an expectation or ideal. If you don’t feel completely submissive, or completely Dominant, that’s okay. Give yourself the opportunity to explore those feelings. It may change on any given day or hour or minute. Surround yourself with those who will allow you to grow. Headspace isn’t about losing yourself. It’s a place that’s meant to allow you to let go. Sometimes it’s hard to find, and that’s okay. Don’t force it. Your headspace should be as unique as you. Allow the pieces of you that you love to shine through it. Not all headspace is sexual. Never feel like where you go in that place must be accompanied with BDSM. If your headspace needs to be a safe place for you, let it. Many use it as a coping mechanism for anxiety and depression and these triggers can not only be upsetting but dangerous. Never, ever assume anything without knowing someone. Care before control. Look out for each other. Know the signs of someone who needs help. They may not ask for it, but make sure those around you know that you’re looking out for them. There can be a very fine line between BDSM and abusive relationships. You may not be able to fix it, but the love you show someone may have a bigger impact than you think.

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If you have more to contribute, please do. I don’t expect this to be exhaustive, I want to give people an opportunity to think and respond and create healthy dialogue around a part of “us” that is too often silenced by passivity.

Please, please share this with everyone you can.

And as always, if you need anything, please reach out to someone. I’m always here.

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Sorry for being super lazy with this tumblr, life comes first sometimes. But a recent trip to Melbourne got me lotsa cuddles n diapie pats!

Sometimes littles can get super confusing! They can be moody, and might not always be able to communicate exactly how they’re feeling. This is by no means a guide to every little, this is just based on my personal experience in littlespace. Even so, I hope this helps a little!

A Happy Little…

A happy little will smile and embrace their littlespace. This can manifest itself in using their little things(pacifiers, sippycups, bibs, bottles, diapers, etc…), giggling, babbling, being hyper, playing, laughing, and a number of other adorable and happy ways.

A Sad Little…

A sad little will not be smiley or hyper. A sad little may either completely abandon their littlespace, or require much more attention than normal. A sad little may eat more or less than normal, and have sporadic sleeping habits. Sad littles may not want to come out and talk about their problems, so it’s important to know their signs and pick up on them. To remedy a sad little, try talking about whats upsetting them, snuggles, making their favorite snacks, or giving them activities such as coloring or reading.

An Anxious Little…

An anxious little may pace, or tap their hands or feet. They may talk more or less, may appear scared or worried, and often will not know how to handle the feelings alone. IMPORTANT: If you think your little is having an anxiety/panic attack, it may be necessary to contact outside help. Know the signs, and know when you may not be able to help the way they need.

A Sleepy Little…

A sleepy little will often slip deep in to their littlespace. They may babytalk, cling to stuffed animals or blankies, and crave their pacifier. Your little will likely try to avoid bedtime or a nap, but if you can tell they need the sleep, make sure they get it! If they don’t, you might get…

A Cranky Little…

A cranky little will get annoyed very easily, and may lash out when they don’t mean to. Cranky littles may whine or throw tantrums. Cranky littles often don’t know what they want, so it’s your job to be a super sleuth! Some common causes are lack of sleep, hunger, lack of attention, and feeling uncomfortable.

An Angry Little…

An angry little may seem very similar to a cranky little, but these are two different feelings! Angry littles may still whine, get annoyed easily, and throw tantrums, but there is usually a clear cause for their anger. An angry little may yell, or fume silently. An angry little will often not want to bring up the problem initially, so asking is key! Angry littles are best handled with a soft touch, so don’t yell back if you can help it! Do your best to calm them down, and then talk out any issues in a safe environment.

A Hyper Little…

A hyper little will be jumpy, giggly, and have lots of energy. Hyper littles can be a danger to the inside, they may make messes! Taking them outside to play might be a good idea. Some good choices? Parks, lakes, and campgrounds!

A Scared Little…

A little who is afraid may cling to you or stuffed animals, hide, shake, or get very quiet. Scared littles need reassurance that whatever they’re scared of can’t hurt them, or isn’t so bad. Scared littles may also want physical affection, or not want touched at all.

A Hungry Little…

A hungry little will probably have tummy grumbles! They might also whine, and clutch their tummy! If it’s close to meal time, make them something yummy, but make sure they’re getting all the nutrients the need! As much as they may beg for ice cream and cookies for dinner, those are treats, not meals. If it’s not close to a meal time, try giving them a yummy snack, like sliced fruit and veggies, granola, yogurt, or crackers. 

An Affectionate Little…

 Here is a non exhaustive list of Tumblr that I see on my wall and make my tumblr’s routine :p 

Why this ? If you like diapers… just take a look at those blog! And follow them of course :)

I will start by my french abdl friends!

ab-raph, that I know well, and see often :) aurelienbb (even if he don’t wanna show his face!) daryl40 (who just starts his blog, so need some followers) go-bigboyprod (the blog of my friend and sometime, daddy). 

hysi findiaper and zemthusky from Finland. Using one of the best ABDL’s little room in their photos!

minimaxkiddo , dexter-diaper making some of the best (very) artistic photos of the ABDL world. Lot of work all the time in their photos ! (Plus, I already met them so I know how nice they are !) lilsnugs is also very talented :)

diaperedlevi that I just discovered, a very nice blog too :)

diapereddallas, with some reblogs, but mostly some of the cutest photo I have see :)

If you like UK, you can go there: 

well, first is littlepeternappymonkey an awesome blog with cute photos ^^ And a very nice ABDL to talk with :). babyboyuk21 has also a good blog where he shares his little sidejust like baby-stevo , abdlerl (even if don’t show his face, he know how to wear diapers) . The classic triforce blogs: baby-gizz, padded-puppy and countii, it’s just impossible to go on tumblr without seing their photos :). the couple wetboystandj will also show you some cute photos :p

I also folow babachris for his photos post every days ^^ and alittleravenclaw (the first person I talk on skype with. He helped me to improve my english a lot ! ) and also diaperkazoo (love his self photos a lot)

You won’t miss, of course, bigbrojj (triforce’s big Bro) with his friend baby-stu. I met the first one, I hope he’ll come with the second, one day, in France :o I also discovered theheirofpadding ‘s blog which I like to read everyday :)

If you travell to germany, don’t forget to take a look at my very good friends blogs: abdaddyffm and windelblogbenny . You will maybe see some of my pics there, cause I visit them when I can :p You can also take a look at lil-toddler ‘s blog. Even id he don’t post often, his photos are very incredible :p Don’t forget corney512 that I met once and hope to see soon :) or spike-82

You can also visit pampersbaby ‘s blog, that I follow since a long time now :p

I think forfex77 is from Germany, but spend most of his time with his boyfriend asianboydl . windeldate is also a german abdl that I follow :)

Don’t forget Canada of course, where you can find many many abdl’s blogs. The first one I think about is petmonster-furfur (maybe the one I read the most. Always a pleasure to come say hello in a tinychat :p ) and the famous blondlittleboy (for hist abdl photos, videos, and also his travel’s report). And lilpaddedginger (always a pleasure to go there :p )

In USA, My favorite will stay eridrikit (thank for all the things you share!) 

I also like: lilsean-bo ,mostly cellphones photos, but always a pleasure to read :) (because he’s cute. As heaven.)

qttyboi A lot of filter on his photo but a lot of imagination and a very nice sens of artisitic photos ! If you’re fan of baby/toddler diapers, you can go there :) 

and also… espichis (very very cute photos) , leoniediaperboi (very cute malaysian boy), ronikat (maybe one of the most famous abdl blog), datbabbyfox (very fun and nice blog), daddys-lilboy , artisticboyx, symphonia-nocturne (we want mooooore photos from you dude! ) cool-captaindiapersean (who’s always reblog my stuff, just like the awesome pseudonymabdl or babiedboi , rocketboy12 , babymatty86  … Thank you guys :p )  littlewildfyre post some very fun and cute pics, just like little-husky (who loves Kigurumi, like I do :p ) clarinetist2 (how to NOT follow this one <3) paddedprincess  is in my top list too :) just like skylerfoxboy (who shares more than abdl photos, but a part of his life). abcubs is very famous too. I sometime tchat with the cute toddlerpilot (if one day I’ll come to USA, I wanna a ride in his plane ! And then I won’t forget to visit thepizzafox in NYC :p