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Not my text, found it online. Don’t fully agree with everything, but still think it’s worth reading. Enjoy!

“Are you a Total Top Dom? Do you want your sub to become fully passive pussyboy and completely dependent on his hole for his erotic life? Then you need to train him to completely forget his cock. You have to castrate him psychologically. This is one of the most important tasks of the Dom, and one of the great fountains of joy to dominant man.

Tips for training the sub:

1. Discourage use of his cock. Every time he uses his cock he is experiencing pleasure as a Top, is neglecting his pussy and learning to desire you with his cock instead of his hole. Encourage him to use a chastity device, or encourage him to totally hold back from masturbating with his dick, and encourage him to finger himself instead. If you are in bed together and he is trying to wank, push his hands away from his cock so he gets used to sexual desire without associating it with cock desire. When you fuck him make sure he is focused on the sensations his ass is giving him by not allowing him to wank during sex - fuck him in a position that is difficult for him to do so such as face down on the bed.  Buy him jocks so that his cock is hidden away and minimised but his ass is on display and have sex while he wears these so he learns that his cock is not necessary. Very controversially, and only if this fits with the type of relationship you have, encourage the boy to feel naughty if he touches his dick, but reward him for playing with his pussy. If he has a small dick, or if it is smaller than yours, remind him how small it is compared to your cock, and encourage him to think that his cock is small because it is only meant to pee. Fucking is reserved for Doms with Real Cocks, not for a sub boy and his little nubbin. If he is caught touching his dick, act disappointed, so he feels shame when he touches himself there. In a BDSM relationship there are many options available to you to reinforce this notion that boy touching his nubbin is bad - whether through chastity or punishment. The idea is to encourage negative feelings towards his cock and achieving orgasm in a conventionally ‘Dom’ way. 

2. Make him feel good about his ass. All subs are naturally self conscious and worried about what their Dom thinks about them. By telling him how beautiful and delicious his ass is, and letting him know how much you love it as often as you can, he will gain confidence in his sub ass and be much more comfortable in showing it off and using it. Reinforce behaviour which glorifies his anus and puts it at the forefront of his sub identity. Much like you are trying to promote a feeling of the forbidden and negative towards his cock in tip 1, here you are trying to promote feelings of desirability and positivity surrounding his anus and being a pussy.

3. Give him total desire for you through his anus. If you want him to be a true bottom and love it, you need to make sure he is feeling stimulated enough anally to forget about his dick. Casually grab his ass cheeks, rub his hole when kissing, play with it during foreplay and ignore his cock completely. Show him that his ass is something very important for you. As covered in previous posts, REAL MEN EAT PUSSY. If you truly love boy pussy then you will lick, suck and eat it out and make him moan like a bitch on heat and beg for your cock. Rub it. Play with it. Give him desire through it, and when you do come round to fucking it, make sure you drive him wild through the fuck and aim to give him an total anal desire experience if possible. When he does achieve this, kiss him, congratulate him, make him feel proud for being a good bottom. Remember that to ignore his cock and try to experience pleasure through his anus alone is a VERY difficult task. That means that as a Dom you need to be up to the task of giving him the anal stimulation necessary for him to feel that it is worth all the trouble and denial he is going through.

4. Combat his shame. A lot of subs feel great amount of shame for many reasons. They may feel shame for being gay, or that they are not very masculine compared to other boys/Men. They may worry about what people think about them. Even if they come to terms with being gay and being less masculine, they may still feel bad about being exclusively passive because let’s face it, Tops get a lot more respect than bottoms both from gays and straights. In order for your boy to truly feel comfortable in his own skin and identity as a fully 100% passive pussyboy and completely give himself to you, and by extension accept you as his 100% active long-term partner, you need to not only encourage that behaviour, but let him know that being a pussyboy is OK and anyone who disagrees can go fuck themselves. An important way to do this is to reinforce the message that you are his Man and you will keep him safe and protect him from society. That is one of the reason why Doms tend instinctively to isolate their subs, not only to control them but mostly to protect them. Show him your love and affection as well as your total dominance and protection. 

If you follow the above with a sub who is willing and wants to be trained then you may well end up in that Yin and Yang type relationship so many people idolise, because, let’s face it, is the only long term satisfying relationship possibility, opposites which fit together perfectly to make a whole.