i think by the time dazzler and aurora start dating, jeanne-marie's all like,
okay i need to be normal around her
she's a nice person and already is so patient with me, i shouldn't take advantage of that
she likes me and tells me she respects me even though she's definitely heard about my past
she's a celebrity, she has obligations and certain lifestyle preferences
she's okay with my diagnoses and my past and my reputation, i shouldn't do anything to push her away or anything
and a lot of it is jeanne-marie's fears and previous experience speaking, and also just seeing how sweet and genuine and considerate dazzler is, aurora would feel guilty about scaring her off
and yet, alison somehow still manages to surprise her somehow
not just because alison tolerates jeanne-marie, accepts her wholly and unconditionally, is receptive --
but because dazzler is unabashedly and unashamedly in love with her and down bad for jeanne-marie, while somehow also being respectful of aurora's need for space and room to breath and quiet time, so alison also has so much love and care to offer just because, she sees jeanne-marie beaubier as someone fun and lovely worth getting to know and someone she loves talking to, so of course she's going to reach out often, and also appreciate when aurora reaches out
it's a rare relationship where neither of them have to beg to be remembered or for more effort and initiation, they both initiate and they both can expect to be remembered, and they both don't judge the other for being too much because frankly, them being too much is exactly why they like each other anyway
sure, their intensities can also make things volatile and mercurial at times, conflicts and misunderstandings still ensue because they're both busy women who go through a lot and management of their disorders is a non linear ongoing process, but the thing about being with each other is that both aurora and dazzler are allowed to make mistakes and learn together, neither of them is the "responsible one" because they both care about each other and learn each other's signs and tells and comfort zones and triggers, and neither of them want to fix the other, they like each other as they are
which is nerve wracking, especially for aurora who doesn't know how much she can trust this, while dazzler is also nervous but she also trusts jeanne-marie, and alison is like, "i don't care if you're gonna be here for a week or for a year or for forever, i love you jeanne-marie and i'm not going to show that less for any reason," because love doesn't need longevity to be valid