Thinking about how high narcissistic traits only really confer you societal power if you exploit other systems of power/privilege vis-Ã -vis gender, class, race, etc. Plus how if expressed in a sufficiently culturally inappropriate way to qualify as a disorder, especially if you're also multiply marginalized, it acts as an emotional disability and an additional liability. This gets into the whole thing about "please don't call your shitty mom a narcissist because it stigmatizes people struggling with NPD", but I don't much like this version of wokescolding because I think it's ineffective without the ability to explain why that's incorrect and not just offensive. It feels like you're just opening yourself up to droves of psychology experts glibly opining, "Well, it seems like narcissists are just shitty people regardless of whether they have a disorder, so what's the problem?"
A more solid approach, I think, is to point out that individualizing social issues like bigotry and abuse is utterly moronic. The analysis of bigotry is more straightforward; pretty much everyone will be able to benefit from some unfair societal dynamic at one point or another, and on the level of politics, minorities are used as scapegoats to reinforce broader structures of class and ingroup-outgroup domination. In the case of abuse, the most proximate cause of abuse is toxic beliefs about coercive control, not any diagnosable psychological disturbance. Common reasons for these beliefs include, but are not limited to, patriarchal messaging, and damaging parenting practices passed down through generations and through religious communities. If the abusive person does have a psychiatric disability, that does contribute to their emotional difficulties and therefore their ability to negotiate situations in a fair manner, but it is never the sole cause of abusive beliefs and behavior. Abuse is abuse, i.e., maltreatment from someone with the power to control you - it is not emotional aberrance. Any connection between these things has to be proven, not just assumed because "that's what makes sense", and the evidence so far has failed to yield a strong relationship in that direction.


















