KIKI'S PEACH DELIVERY

Did this person (who turned out to be a trans man) say, ‘actually I’m a guy’ and move on? No. They WENT OFF about how this other person in the comments had ‘misgendered me’, like this understandable wrong guess was a malicious act. The other person apologised and attempted to move on, but oh no, that couldn’t happen. This was a clear indication that the other person was evil, daring to misgender a trans person (again, this was a completely unintentional wrong guess that was immediately apologised for and not repeated), and not only that, the OP was evil for ‘allowing their followers to misgender me’ (the OP had not been involved in this conversation at all, nor was their any indication over whether either participant followed them. It was two random Tumblr users having a discussion in the notes of this one post. Nothing to do with OP). This proved that the OP and this person supporting them were evil transphobes, see, and proved that ‘all women are negatively affected by gender policing’ was an evil transphobic thing to say and shouldn’t be talked about.

Was any of this discussion remotely useful for any purpose? No. It was just a derail of a legitimate discussion by someone deciding to invent new transphobia and misogyny so they could use invented victimisation in their personal game of oppression olympics, instead of usefully discussing the actual transphobia and misogyny that the post was about. Someone using their identity as a trap to try to bully random people on the internet via ‘I think Coolsville sucks’-style invented attacks when there are very real transphobes and misogynists out there to focus on instead. All it did was make a bunch of people -- including the person stirring up the drama! -- very angry for no reason.

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Hey honestly this is exactly the kind of thing I'm talking about when I say it happens within the frameworks of basically every ideology present in American culture. This is a talking point I have heard used by feminists many times over the years. I tried to find a source on this. I googled "1 in 6 men sexual assault" and found mostly articles about how 1 in 6 men are victims of sexual assault. Including an organization dedicated to the cause of helping male victims of sexual assault, called 1 in 6. I tried looking for studies on this subject and found three American surveys ranging from 6-14%, with the largest survey having the lowest figure.

Eventually, this poster replied, linking an Australian news article citing a survey of 5000 people between the ages of 18 and 45 which concluded 26.4% of men have committed an act of sexual violence, compared to 17.7% of women doing the same things. The article briefly mentions some of the criteria for sexual violence, some quotes from those conducting the survey, and then links to the article on the Australian Institute of Criminology website. The link goes nowhere. Searching the site for this survey, I can't actually access it. The website doesn't seem to work very well as most links I click have connection issues. I can find an article on the AIC website, seemingly about this survey judging by the date and the content, and it mentions a breakdown of figures as such:

"The study, which is based on a survey of more than 5,000 Australians aged 18 to 45, found that almost a quarter of respondents (22.1%) had perpetrated sexual violence since turning 18, while one in 14 had perpetrated sexual violence in the past 12 months."

"The most common forms of sexual violence perpetrated in the previous 12 months were: pressuring someone for dates or sexual activity (3.8%); emotionally or psychologically manipulating someone to participate in sexual activity (2.7%); non-consensual kissing (2.6%); non-consensual touching (2.4%); pressuring someone to participate in unprotected sexual activity (2.4%); engaging in image-based sexual abuse (2.1%); and non-consensual sexual intercourse (1.8%)."

So. This is mostly interpersonal social pressure to extract sexual contact. We already know the vast majority of sexual violence is conducted by those who already know the victim. It comes in avenues of coercion, drugging, blackmail, that kind of thing. This data includes such things as filming sex without consent. These are all bad things, these are all acts of violence which nobody should experience. These are the kinds of things I personally experienced. They can fuck you up bad.

But here is the problem. This does not say "1 in 6 men admit to committing sexual violence." This does not say "26.4% of men admit to committing sexual violence." This says "Of over 5000 surveyed Australian men and women between the ages of 18 and 45, 26.4% of these men admit to acts which meet our definitions of sexual violence." Those statements are very, very different. The way this information is being interpreted, or, rather, misinterpreted, is being wildly simplified and, frankly, sensationalized to serve paranoid thinking about how one in six random-ass men are sexual predators who will pounce as soon as they get the opportunity. The reality of sexual violence is very, very different. This is a great example of something that sounds convincingly true which doesn't reflect reality. A frightened fantasy where somebody will hear "26.4%" and project that number onto literally every single person they see. Carry it with them on the bus, down the street, into the convenience store. Constantly scanning for large predators. This tints everything.

This is precisely what the fucking problem is. Everyone does this. Conservatives. Liberals. Communists. Feminists. Nazis. Fucking everybody in America yields to these paranoid urges where they and their small group are the only morally upright individuals in a sea of muck and filth. And fucking everyone has stories and half-remembered statistics to back it up.