questingaround

I got coding and gender on the brain and the Thoughts Mailman just delivered a neat little letter so im putting it here in case someone else gets something from it.

i will always have compassion for the idiots in the world. probably because i’m also an idiot but man this crap is not as carefree as its made out to be. knowing that you’re dumb and not being able to fix it is awful. youll end up expressing an opinion or asking a question only to get clowned on (or you get to see people become disappointed in you in real time) but you can’t tell why and you can’t ask for clarification either. i think most of the internet would just say ‘get thicker skin’ or try learning more but that stuff isn’t easy or pleasant and usually just means being exposed to the same awful reactions again (if anyone says ‘toughen up’ to this i’m getting the block button). ALSO knowing what to learn about is not straightforward, it’s probably yet another skill that if you’re already struggling you don’t have it.