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Whose Line Is It Anyway-Robin Williams

The process recording I was talking about. Again, sorry for the crappy quality, I’m figuring out the comfortable way to record that wouldn’t give my computer heart attack.

initial pages of PLAYING HOUSE, my Andy & Elodie comic, are up on my Patreon!

Intro.

So I’ve tried looking up a definition for what a Favorite Person is, specifically in the BPD community, but I can’t find anything that’s a straight out explanation hardly. I see lots of examples of people talking about their FP, but hardly any explanations to what it is, especially in words suited to those new to BPD/without BPD.

So here is my take on defining what a Favorite Person in terms of BPD. I’m very new on the subject of BPD though, so please add to this if you have more experience and think I missed something! Or send me an ask~

So what is a Favorite Person?

For those with BPD, it’s like a common thing to have Favorite Person(s). It doesn’t mean they like or care about other people less (though that can be true for some, it’s case by case), it just means they have this one person (or sometimes persons) who they seek validation from the most and want to spend time with the most; it’s naturally very important to them. Often the Favorite Person is someone a person with BPD is dating or it’s one of their best friends. Sometimes even a parent. It’s not bizarre for someone they just met to become their FP either I think, depending.  Some people even hate their Favorite Person. It’s likely thanks to splitting, which is a common thing in BPD as well. (wiki info on splitting here)

What is Splitting? And why can’t non-BPD folks use the term Favorite Person?

Idealizing and devaluing basically; which can come out like “I know this person has flaws, but like even their flaws aren’t that big a deal <3 it’s just part of them” (idealizing) to “wow their flaws are such a big deal, i can’t deal with this right now, i’ve made a mistake” (devaluing).

Splitting is likely the cause of having a Favorite Person to begin with, and that’s why many folks with BPD are greatly uncomfortable with non-BPD folks using the term Favorite Person to describe best friends or lovers. A Favorite Person is not the same as just someone you really like, no matter how intensely. (and no the term doesn’t always have to be capitalized, I’m just doing that for emphasis)

To those with BPD, a Favorite Person is someone who they feel a need to be with, an urge they may not even understand or be aware of. I’ve had plenty of FPs myself and only recently realized that’s what they were. It’s different from simply having a person you care about deeply, because this is a very intense and innate urge for BPD folks whether they feel any romantic or sexual feelings about the person. It’s very similar to wanting to share things with people you like, it’s just a hell of a lot more intense if they’re your Favorite Person, and only those with BPD or similar mental illnesses feel that intensity with it.

Like I said, you don’t even have to like someone for them to be your FP. The thing is you have this innate urge to seek them out for attention and validation or comfort above all others. It often gives those of us with BPD a sense of peace and “all is right in the world” when we get the attention we desire from our Favorite Person.

Imprinting is also usually the significant difference between a person you really like and a borderline person’s Favorite Person(s).

I do not personally feel that “favorite person” is off-limits as a term to others without BPD, but in the context of BPD it is important that people understand the meaning and significance. Reblogging BPD posts without understanding and potentially invalidating the poster’s illness and feelings is something to be mindful of. 

There are also folks with BPD who do not yet know that’s what they have, and they relate to Favorite Person posts, so please don’t tell people they can’t relate to this unless they’re “BPD-qualified”. It’s a tricky disorder, very tricky, and isolating the BPD community from others to fight stigma is counterproductive imo. This is not at all meant to invalidate the intensity of BPD for those who have it, just a kind reminder not to dismiss the feelings of others.

aran: a page pack by pouthongwon

a page pack consisting of: an about page, a tags/navigation page, and a projects page

about page | light version / dark version • code

tags/navigation page | light version / dark version • code

projects page | light version / dark version • code

each page has a built-in light/dark mode. just change the class in the body tag. as well as four custom links.

individual features are going to be under the cut. credits are in the code.

compact - an about page theme by bumblebeatrice

preview || code

please like and reblog if you enjoy the code and/or want to use it! as this is my first code, i'd also appreciate feedback :)

features:

darkmode/lightmode toggle

icon change on darkmode toggle

details section

quick nav

likes/dislikes

skills list

elsewhere section

notes:

i owe a huge thanks to @vitaminholland for letting me use her tooltip code as a reference, it really helped me out :) please give her some love on her blog!!

i do not claim ownership of any scripts, icons, fonts, etc in this code that i did not create. i only claim ownership of my creations. please contact me if i have used your creation as a reference and you would like me to remove it.

compact page resources

full resource list

character page 001 ❤ preview / code

a very simple multi-muse page with endless scrolling and customizable basic info boxes for your characters. let me know if there are any bugs.

please don't use this code as a base or claim it as your own. that includes removing the credits. however, you may edit it to your liking for your personal use, not to distribute.

reblogs are encouraged and appreciated if you plan on using or enjoy my codes.

I made two themes for a character profile page and a character navigation page, and figured I’d share them. Feel free to edit as much as you want, although I would appreciate it if you leave the credit please. Have fun!

Character profile page theme

preview/code

Character navigation/network page theme

preview/code

Go ahead and make this a navigation page for other stuff too, it’ll work for that too I think.

Go ahead and message me if you need help. I’m kinda new to HTML and CSS, so there might be a couple glitches depending on what you add, but I don’t think there will be? idk I might share a blog theme that matches these later.