I am HIS ♕Queen

"For me right now the definition of greatness is my kids wanna come home. My definition of greatness is my wife and my daugther and my son can't wait to get home. Cuz Dad's a safe landing spot, after a wild day. And so all of this other stuff is in service to 'can I be at peace at my house', that’s greatness, am I a safe place to my loved ones to land."

Every submissive person contains their personal Owner's Manual within themselves.

You have to get it from them, to be aware of how they work, and what uses they may have to you.

You access the Owner's Manual, by asking questions, and listening to your submissive partner.

Every Owner's Manual will be different, because every submissive person is different. There is no "Universal Owner's Manual For Subs"

As time goes by, and you consume more of your submissive's Owner's Manual, you will understand how to better care for your submissive, and how you may make the best use of them, for yourself.

Finally, never stop consulting the Owner's Manual, because it will change. Edits will occur. Entire sections of the manual may get revised during your ownership. Stay up to date. There is always more to learn.

I have recently been chatting with multiple submissive girls who are basically being ignored by their Caregiver. They did nothing wrong. They were not told they were going to be ignored. They just have been without any contact for no particular reason. 

When you ignore your submissive, whether it is intentional or not, you leave them wondering what they have done wrong. They sit there thinking that there must be something wrong with them that you can so put them from your mind, as they starve for your guidance, love, and support. There is no excuse for it. It’s the age of texting folks. It takes less than 30 seconds to type a phrase like, “Sorry, I don’t mean to ignore you. Just wanted to remind you that I care about you. I’m just terribly busy.” Takes the same 30 seconds to type, “I’m having a hard time with myself right now, and I just need some time to sort it out. I hope you understand.” Any communication of what is going on that requires your absence will mean so much to someone who depends on you so much, and who you have sworn to care for. Don’t ghost on your submissive. Let me say it again for those in the back… DON’T GHOST ON YOUR SUBMISSIVE. If you can’t spare them 30 seconds over a period of several days, you don’t deserve one. 

"That's it, you're doing it right, darling, don't worry."

Any guidance through even the simplest of tasks.

"I'm here, I'm not going anywhere."

Feeling weight, like a hand resting on a shoulder or thigh.

Making eye contact and getting a smile and nod back that says, you're doing great, keep going.

Being hushed or swayed while receiving back rubs.

Dominance isn’t about sex.

A D/s relationship isn’t about bondage and toys.

TPE isn’t about keeping a sex slave.

I post a lot of porn because, well, let’s face it: we all love porn. But the sexual aspect forms such a small part of the whole that I sometimes feel like I’m doing it a disservice with my blog.

Dominance is being there for her.

Dominance is working through her meltdowns.

Dominance is accepting her, especially when she won’t accept herself.

Dominance is being asked for the millionth time if you love her.

Dominance is tucking her in at night.

Dominance is telling her no.

Dominance is quieting her demons.

Dominance is being her bastion of strength.

Dominance is shrugging off her anger and frustration when you do things for her own good.

Dominance is encouraging her.

Dominance is comforting her i the middle of the night when she’s had a nightmare.

Dominance is guiding her.

Dominance is building her.

Sometimes girls do talk too much.

Luckily there are solutions for that, especially when you are planning to be watch the sports game, in which your girl isn’t interested in.