puckguy

maybe this is a hot take but like as a gay person i don't care about cole caufield holding some scrabble letters. like if you're gonna cancel every nhler that has done something vaguely homophobic then the whole leage is gone and no one can watch hockey anymore. and the type of people who usually like. throw a fit i guess over this meaningless acts of "homophobia" aren't actually gay or are too young to understand that people are human and you can consume problematic media, though i don't think cole is problematic anyways. it's obvious when people's only interaction with queer people has been on the internet, and i'm telling you no sensible gay person cares about the word f/g spelled out with scrabble letters. like all in all, ultimately there are more things to be worrried about, and calling this homophobia and calling cole homophobic is honestly laughable.

on that note though like. parasocial relationships ppl. especially with these ntdp/college hockey boys, they're not going to live up to your dream boy expectation and 9 times out of 10 then will be huge cunts. if you're losing your mind over this insequential thing then please for the love of god just like. seperate yourself from the internet for a bit. tumblr does not affect your real life, and letting menial things like who gets cancelled today or whatever the fuck dictate your emotions is not healthy

“I'm telling you no sensible gay person cares about the word f/g spelled out with scrabble letters” while neither I nor my friends were deeply angry/hurt/wtvr w this situation I understand that we represent less than 1% of the world’s population, therefore, our opinions won’t always match with some people and how they feel, however, I wouldn't diminish people who were hurt by the situation.

Slurs don’t really need to be directed to someone in order to be hurtful, that's how it works, and that's how systemic violence also works. So I wouldn't say it's not sensible to be angry about it yk.

I also take it you're referring to Twitter because as far as Ive seen nobody in here is really making a big deal out of what happened (rather the contrary, they're mostly defending him), and I would add that Twitter isn't the best source to bring because half of the people there just want to seem “woke” going out of their ways to blame cole while ignoring open (and recent!) racism and homophobia from other players. so yup, you will see some people saying “I'm queer and I didn't like that, therefore, he should be canceled” which is wrong but you will also see people saying “I'm queer, and I'm not bothered by it, therefore, you shouldn't” which is also wrong.

as a twenty yo black queer, I’ve seen a handful my whole life, but I like to think that nobody is entitled to feel the same way about something just because I may have more experience yk. feelings work differently and that's ok.

as corwin added, I wouldn't go out of my way to defend him nor blame him, i's up to people’s feelings and morals what they're gonna do w that info, that's why I wouldn't push and say that how people feel isn't reasonable (I’m not living their life nor I know what they went through outside the online world).

Adding: I 100% agree when you say that this shouldn't dictate how we feel irl, usually people get really hurt when they put those guys on a pedestal, and that would be a good tip: don’t expect them to be perfect (cuz nobody is tbh), but feel free to “unstan” or whatever, if they do something that to you, is hurtful.

What he did was a homophobic joke, it is wrong, and while I wouldn't call him a homophobe and make a monster out of him (esp if we consider the context), I support those who don't wanna talk about it anymore.

that being said, if I were some ppl I would direct my energy to different stuff, especially if you're trying to be an ally (aka you're not lgbtqia+) you can talk about it (cc situation), but make sure you're not ignoring what's being blatantly homophobic around the league. we can use your support on the violence that's happening now 🤎

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