Because I can tell you for a fact, I know many black women who are loud and ratchet and wear weaves. I know black women who are attending law school and choose to wear their hair naturally. I know black women who are single mothers, working multiple jobs in order to support their families. I know black women who are shy and introverted and listen to alternative music. I know Claire Huxtables and Olivia Popes. I know Nene Leakes and Sweet Browns. And the one thing that they all have in common is that they all deserved to be loved.

Before you get mad at your partner for not doing what you expect them to do, Stop and ask yourself “have I ever communicated to them that I have this expectation?” If you have not, it’s unfair to expect them to read your mind.