willing victim

Everyone fucks weird, whether they want to admit it or not, bc the brain just does whatever at literally all times. I'm terrified of choking, drowning, and having a heart attack, just like I'm soul-deep afraid of being assaulted, but fear is right there next to excitement in terms of chemicals in the brain, so here I am! You're not a bad or cringe person for having thoughts or playing pretend or talking about your kinks in appropriate spaces!

Also resus stuff is literally the height of intensity and drama in media, which is incredibly fun. The idea of someone (professionally or personally) being so dedicated to YOU and you ALONE because you have such dire immediate needs that need to be met that they'll drag you back from death bruised and battered and broken is likely really appealing to a lot more people than they realize. Especially today, when it's easy to feel so isolated, that sort of thing is VERY nice to fantasize about.

Like oh...I mean so much to you that you'd work yourself to exhaustion and break my bones just to make sure I'm okay? I don't get to deny help bc this is so vital? It's not rude to accept so much, even when I can't reciprocate? You're doing all this even knowing I cannot repay you right now, or maybe ever?

Imo, it's just about vulnerability and power and control and being taken care of and trusting someone (and having that trust broken with the highest possible consequences in dark resus), and that's just bdsm with a different aesthetic.