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Parent-Teacher Conference Day

We have been DYING for parent teacher conference day. It was so nice to hear some details about how our kiddo is doing in school. He's made so much progress in such a short period of time. He's coming to really appreciate art and show enjoyment in making it. That's very exciting for me who has been desperately waiting to do crafts with someone.

His violin teacher said he's showing a "particular talent" with tones and rhythm, and she thinks we should consider pursuing more music lessons for him. That's really nice to know, since I only knew that he was enjoying the violin, but I don't really get to see any of the musical parts... Not that I would be able to tell how that part was going even if I could.

I found out he has his own little shelf at school for his own works, and they're going to start him on a first-third grade reading program soon. The teacher said in 20 some years she's never seen a four-year-old read this well.

And we were thrilled to hear him described as "everyone's friend." I feel so nervous about school yard politics, so it put my mind at ease to hear that he is having lots of positive social time. I have noticed that on the walk to school he acts like a little mayor, waving at everyone and calling them by name, sometimes even by their full name, which I find kinda funny and cute. The teacher said, she's teaching him to decline social invitations when he's deeply invested in a work so he can see that work through. That seems like a valuable life skill as well.

His teacher said she's happy that he's comfortable enough now to start getting in a little trouble, like getting into little tickle fights at circle time. She also seems to understand how to work with him really well. She said when he doesn't want to do something, if she explains why she's asking him to do it like he's 35, that's the best way to get him to go along with it. That's what we've found, too. So, it's nice to see that the teacher is seeing the kid we see at home and is finding similar ways of working with him.

I'm just so happy to see how well he's enjoying his time at school and that the teacher seems to really get him and enjoy teaching him. Thank you for letting me shamelessly gush about my kiddo.

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We've had our first full week of school. My kiddo is exhausted, but he's beginning to show signs of evening out. I always feel a little nervous about school, but this year, he still won't answer questions, but if I just leave it to him, he'll tell me what's going on in his day and I love it. It's kinda awesome to hear his own report on his day. He was excited to tell me that he started violin lessons yesterday and the bow is made of HORSE HAIR! 😄 They are learning how to handle it right now with a "box violin." He also asked me to make a "magic slide" with him, and I don't know what that is, but it seemed to be some addition trick. It was really fun having him talk me through how to do it. He told me about his Spanish classes, too. No report on art or writing, which I sort of expected.

In the afternoon, we do the torchlight K curriculum together or go to Taekwondo. I thought it might be a little silly to get a curriculum when he's doing full day school, but it has been really helpful for me to have a plan if things that we can do. It just kinda helps me with the mom guilt, when I can look back and think, oh yeah we read these books, and talked about this and made that ... It's been really fun to listen to him putting things together about Russia. Today we're wrapping up with food. We're going to make borscht and a carrot dish. This morning he drank a Russian inspired tea with decaf black tea and raspberry jam, and it was kind of adorable to watch him sipping his tea and listening to Tchaikovsky at breakfast. So, I think we'll stick with it. We're done with home reading and math. His reading is developing naturally at an unwieldy pace. He started breaking down words he didn't know to figure out definitions, and I was like... Eh, ok he's getting this on his own pretty well. And I don't want him to get too far ahead on math. There's loads of other things in the world to learn about. If he gets really into something particular in math again, we'll roll with it, but I'm not going to bring it up unless he does.

I'm trying to figure out what I do now. I'm thinking of starting subbing, and using that as a way to get... Basically paid to tour schools at a time when in person tours are shut down... And I'm trying to get more dedicated to my writing. I submitted a story for live storytelling and it was accepted, so I'm psyched to participate in that. It's going to be two nights, in person and virtual, and I'm really looking forward to meeting other storytellers in the area, and I got a good reaction during my first run through of it, so I feel like that feedback was really encouraging for me. I also need to like, finish unpacking 😅. I need a lot of motivation for that. 😬

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Sometimes, my kiddo makes up a word he doesn't know, but he says it like it's just a word everyone knows. Like tonight he asked why we had a squaffley hand towel. It is a waffle weave that is extra soft and scrunchy. Squaffley is the perfect word for it, and I totally knew which towels he was talking about. 😄

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A new super appropriate word has been coined, "crashtapult." I'm not entirely certain what it is, but it makes quite a clatter.

My kiddo likes us to pretend to be villains sometimes. I've been going with it. When I'm a villain I'm "Battle Mommy," & his villain persona is "Hulk Sum," because adding "sum" to the end of a name makes it bad... He means "scum," but he learned this word by reading dogman on his own, and I think he thinks the "sc" is like "science."

Anyway, he is just my favorite villain. He says "gross, ewww, yuck" because villains say bad words. 😄 He also told me that when I'm Battle Mommy, I can say "stupid" & "sh!t," which he recently learned in school.

He comes up with missions for us like messing up all the beds and unscrewing all the drawer knobs. 😄 I hope he doesn't really turn into a villain because he would make life really annoying.

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My kiddo is calling uppercuts "apricots" and anyone who wants to correct him is gonna have to fight me.

I've been worried, that we're not giving the kiddo enough chances to engage in challenging physical activities. We missed the deadlines to do soccer, and just haven't been sure what is safe during Covid. At school, I've been hearing some about the kids hitting, pushing and kicking. I've also noticed that my child loves pretending to fight with other children. I don't want him to get in trouble at school, and I don't allow aaaaaaaaany physical fighting at home, but it's clearly something he's pretty interested in, and that worries me that he could get in trouble at school if he starts engaging in this interest outside of the home. So, I asked him to confirm that he would never hit/kick/push at school even if other kids were playing this way, and in exchange, I would sign him up for taekwondo. The deal is if he ever uses what he's learning to fight a kid at school and if he ever tried to fight his parents at home, the classes stop, but as long as he's following the rules, he can have lessons. His trial class was hard for him, he felt very shy, but by the night of, he just looked elated over the idea that he could go back. He got to have his first full class yesterday and he was floating with excitement. He wanted to play instead of resting before taekwondo, and I told him if he didn't rest, he wouldn't have the energy to do a good job in class. He tried his standard, "oh well, I don't want to go, I'll just play now." And he didn't even finish the sentence, he changed his mind and said he'd rest so he could have a good taekwondo class. I have never seen him so thrilled to engage in anything before, and his joy is just so wonderful to watch. His mama and I, just keep watching clips of him dancing around after class and looking at pictures of him in his dobok like we're trying to get a little fix of that serotonin for ourselves. He hasn't acted like this about soccer or swimming or art lessons or circus class. It's kinda cool just to see how over the top happy he is doing something he's so interested in. I'm still a little nervous about the fighting, but the teachers work with the kiddos on listening and focusing and challenging themselves, so maybe I think it could have a lot of positives, too.

My kiddo just expanded his "I know a bigger number" game with exponents, and I can't tell if he's right or wrong anymore. 😰 Fortunately, I can still win by compying him and saying "plus one."

Settle this debate:

Is two two and therefore it does not contain any twos OR is two two and therefore it contains one two?

ETA: If I'm correct and the second one is right, how do I shove a four-year-olds face in it? I mean, how do I explain that to a child?

My kiddos bedside book stack is getting out of control. I told him he had too many books on his nightstand. He removes one book and tells me every other book is necessary. I told him he still has too many books. He grabs another book and opens it to this page with elmo on it... look kid I don't need you providing me with textual evidence to support your argument.

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Halp! My 4-year-old has a question, he's asked a few times now. I feel like there should be a succinct answer to this, but I haven't figured it out yet. Help would be greatly appreciated. The question is "why does everything change?" He clarified with examples, like food darkens when you cook it, rainbows appear and then fade, we get taller, ice melts, etc. So far, my answer has been "that's a good question. "

So, why do things change?

We have reached this beautiful time in life where my little guy will try to secretly stay up and read in bed. It's so adorable. He's opening the books on his pillow and reading them until he falls asleep with them. He wakes up and goes right back to reading. I just love it.

It's sort of funny. He always loved reading, so I hadn't thought much about his preferences for book topics, but someone got him a set of Spiderman stories, and that like flipped a switch. He can sit down for two hours and read that book. Then he started doing that to his other books. He's been reading, but this is like intensely reading. I would never have picked that up for him. He still just not quite 4, and I was planning to sneak it away when he wasn't paying attention to it, but he won't leave it anywhere.

I'm trying to plan a tiny little distanced outdoor birthday party for him right now. He's getting majorly into superheroes, so I'm thinking super hero face masks for the kids and a traveling reptile show, cause he also thinks reptiles are super cool, and they don't take up a crazy amount of space. It will be like three kids, but I just want to do something.

Fml

We're so stressed atm. So much is happening. Like everyone we're trying to cope with covid life. That sucks. It's caused us to leave our preschool and find ourselves in a small contract dispute with them (small because we were obviously in the right, but i haaaaaaaaate conflict). So now I'm living that full time caregiver life. I had to hire a stranger to help out twice a week so I can have s little break. I had some really horrible caregivers in my childhood, so that triggered tons on panick. Then we found out someone in my house lived through this crazy, crazy shit that I can't even talk about because it's not my story to tell, but there's a podcast about it and a documentary in the works. So I've been the support person on that...and we're moving past it mostly because there is so much more crap being thrown at us right now. We decided we arent going to be able to make it through another covid winter in a large city with no close family or friends with children, so we're moving back to my home state. That triggered so much panic because I'm estranged from my abusive mom who lives in the state and 4 hours just isn't enough distance for me. Then we're selling our current home, which sucks during covid. And on top of all that, we just found out my bil is in the hospital with like... 50/50 odds. I wish we just had a great relationship with him and like wanted to go see him or talk to him and knew how to comfort his parents, but... he is this super manipulative guy who goes through these paranoid spells where he calls up and starts rambling about some really weird stuff... we want to get him help, but cant, so we just avoid him. But of course now... with this ... f*ck I don't know how to feel or what to do. Ugh, I just think I needed to vent all this somewhere.

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Welp, we're running out of activities. We've started playing some video games. It was a blast. Particularly since dying in the game made my preschooler squeal with delight. But then, today... He realized that he wasn't winning and my happy talk at the end of the games and high fives was just bullshit. I watched him putting it together. The first time he just watched his character slump, and he was quiet and looked like he was thinking. The second time, he had the same expression and did not join my high five. The third time he started to frown and his little lower lip started to quiver. Finally, he told me he didn't like the way the game ended and he wanted to win. 😭 He hid his face and sobbed and sobbed. He tried again and then cried some more. I showed him how he was improving, but that wasn't enough for him. I felt so sad for him. 😭😭😭

I have zero sewing skills/knowledge, but I need someway to get this kid to cover his face so we can go on an outing this weekend. We're going to find a little forest time. He helped pick the material and I made the elastic go around the head instead of the ears so it can go up and down without getting lost. 🤞

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Parenting through Covid-19

It's so up and down. Sometimes I am sad, sometimes I'm confident that I have this under control. We're settling into a rhythm of learning chess, Spanish and U.S. Geography. I've been firm about independent work time and created stations like he has at school. He's developing his reading at a surprising pace, but then again, he always has. We play a little dice game to work on addition skills and he really enjoys them.

I'm most excited about my trick to get him to work on coloring... Idk how, but I just don't have a kid who likes to color. I dream of the day I can go to a restaurant with a coloring book and a pack of crayons. But my toddler doesn't enjoy coloring at all. So, I drew shapes on a piece of white paper and then wrote "secret messages" inside with white crayon. Then he has to color over it with a marker to see the message. He's finally willing to fill in a shape if I do this. He loves making the message appear and then trying to read it. Maybe he'll never be the kid who colors things, but I feel like I get the same effect from our secret messages.

His imagination has developed so much during this time. He's showing pictures of his made up words on his imaginary cell phone (what's a schlowsaucer? :::swipes his palm a few times::: here, let me show you on my phone.) He's waking up holding imaginary baby turtles and telling me all about them and then tucking them in his pockets so he can go eat breakfast.

He's also missing his friends. He feels like he doesn't have any friends at all. We're doing all the video things, but it's not enough. This is such a long time for a three-year-old, I understand the need, but I feel like there have to be other solutions. I want to just handle this Decameron style, ten people in the country entertaining each other, that seems like the right way to deal with things right now.

Anyway, I just can't figure out how to make my little cabin pod idea happen safely, and it seems like the sort of idea that I can't even mention without fear of becoming a social outcast, but next pandemic, I'm going to jump on this plan 😅.

First Parent Teacher Conference

Today it was our first school conferences. It was really great to talk with the teachers about how school is going. The teachers confirmed my suspicion that he has made friends with basically everyone. He loves his classmates, and they love him back. When he was out sick the other students missed him and were asking about him. He also does tell me about his practical life work, but that he also is doing a lot of work with language and math. It was nice to see that the teachers are observing him choosing the same kind of work he enjoys at home. I feel so good about the school we chose. The Montessori method gives him the opportunity to work with classmates who are his age and older than him, so he's able to participate in work he's cognitively ready for, but not necessarily physically ready for. They said he likes to drive by and help the other students when they are stuck with some work, like he will stop by and help them with a letter sound or identifying a number even though he's not ready to work with a tool independently because he still needs to develop some of his physical skills. I'm really happy to see that his teachers understanding of my child's development is similar to my understanding even though we haven't communicated much outside of this meeting. I was glad to see that there were no major concerns. We talked about goals, and we discussed my theory that something was occurring during lunch that was causing him to fall out rhythm before time to leave for the playground. I noticed that on days he didn't get to go to the park, he had a full lunch when he came home. They agreed that it was very likely something going wrong during lunch, and they would watch for it to see if anything might be causing him to breakdown at lunch time. They also assured me that it was fine to send him with pb&j everyday, which I felt bad about, but he's just much more likely to enjoy his lunch that way. Anyway, it was really exciting to get a glimpse into his class life! And I feel really good to hear about how well he's getting along at school.

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