btw i’m fucking sick of how people in our OWN COMMUNITY, not only cishets, treat bisexual kids. if i have to see ONE MORE bisexual child apologize for being bisexual to absolutely anybody i’m going to scream. if i have to see ONE MORE bisexual child attempt to redefine their identity, inhibit themselves, try to fit into something else to seem more progressive or less like an “impostor” because somebody told them that being bisexual is regressive, wrong, dirty, etc, i’m going to scream. because it’s not bisexual adults biphobes are harassing, the majority are fucking children, i have not met a single other bisexual adult my age who was not made to feel guilty about their identity as a bisexual CHILD at the hands of people who are supposed to be our allies.
i was personally pressured into accepting the split attraction model when i was a child. i identified as biromantic homosexual, then panromantic homosexual, panromantic demisexual, etc, so i didn’t seem like those bisexuals who “do it for attention”, those “transphobic” bisexuals, those “bisexuals who are mostly straight”, those “bisexuals who should just call themselves straight”, those “bisexuals who prefer men”, etc. I haven’t met another adult bisexual who did not feel the need to identify as a FEB as a child and even then apologize for daring to just THINK about men, or identify as homoromantic bisexual, biromantic homosexual, pansexual, and whatever other terms people invent.
when i came out as bisexual to my friends the first thing that came out of one of their mouths was “i’m sorry you like men.” i lost friends after coming out as bisexual. i got called a traitor, i got nasty fucking anons about my boyfriend, about myself, got told shit on anon like “i used to be attracted to you but not anymore”, etc, and i was absolutely terrified of coming out on this website after seeing so many of my mutuals get driven off after coming out as bisexual. when i was questioning my sexuality, still outwardly identifying as a lesbian, people i thought were my friends would talk shit about bisexual women to me, question their sexuality, question their motives, question their sex lives and fidelity.
so yeah, if going through that hurt just as badly as a grown ass 19 year old adult as it did when i was 12, i know it has to hurt for bisexual children today. bisexual kids, i love you. if your identity changes, that is okay, if your attraction changes as you get older, that’s okay too, if you’re questioning, that’s fine, but don’t ever let anybody force you into picking a “better” term. you are bisexual, you are enough. bisexual is trans inclusive. It is nonbinary inclusive. it is not a dirty word.
adults who try to convince bisexual kids who did NOT ask that they’re anything but, hell is hot lol
gracieabrams
ellievsbear
yousharknotpass
