• "You deserve better"

• "I'm busy with X thing"

• "There's no need for titles"

• "Let's hangout'

Things highly interested men say:

• "I will put the work and improve myself to deserve you"

• "I will find a way to make time and fit you into my busy schedule" (you're a priority)

• "I want to be serious in exploring a relationship exclusively with you"

You can not fully level up, if you do not level up how you take care of your body. Our bodies do so much for us and we must fuel it with the food and exercise it needs. You are doing this for you. There are two main benefits to starting this journey of leveling up how you take care of your body. First, you are going to feel unstoppable and be more energized. Second, you are going to look great, and have the body you’ve always wanted. Being healthy will give you that automatic glow that nobody will be able to resist. Nothing will ever beat the satisfaction of knowing you are taking great care of your body. Taking proper care of your body is one of the greatest acts of self-love. Below I’ve listed some things you can start doing to begin living your best healthy life.

First, you must change your mindset: Decide now that this is not going to be a two week or one month diet, this is now your new lifestyle. It is not going to be easy, and this journey is going to require a lot of determination, focus, and discipline. Do not give yourself the option to quit or to give up. Tell yourself that this time you will see change and progress.

Plan & journal: Before you start changing your lifestyle, you must plan. Decide and write down what times of the day you are going to be eating, how frequently you are going to cook, how many meals you are going to have in a day, and if you want to start meal prepping. This journal is going to be your health journal where you are also going to create a grocery list, a backup plan for when you don’t feel motivated, and quotes or things that motivate.

No more junk food: It is time to stop consuming junk food. You are not trash so stop feeding your body trash. Junk food are foods that are processed and unnatural (white carbs, fast food, candy, etc.). If you do not give up junk food or lower how frequently you eat them now, you will pay for it in the future. It is okay to cheat once in a while but cheat in moderation. Eating too much junk food is linked to high cholesterol, heart disease, obesity, cancer, type two diabetes, and more. 

Start consuming mainly whole foods: Whole food means foods that are barely processed or refined and contain a lot of nutrients that our body needs. Make your diet include vegetables (spinach, carrots, etc.), whole grains (whole grain rice and bread, etc.), legumes (beans, corn, etc.) and fruits (apples, grapefruit, etc.). Find your favorite whole foods and stick to them.

Make protein your best friend: First make sure you are consuming the proper amount of protein for your body (it is possible to eat too much protein so double check with your doctor). Always make sure you are getting a good amount of protein. Protein does not only keep you full for a longer amount of time, but it also helps build muscle and muscle burns fat. Include lean meats, fish, yogurt, and eggs in your diet.

Eat more fruits & vegetables: Fruits and vegetables are packed with the nutrients our bodies need. Try to consume at least one fruit or vegetable with every meal you eat. Forming little habits like this will benefit you greatly in the future.

Healthy snacking: Create a list of healthy snacks you can eat when you are hungry, after or before a meal. Snacking will help sustain your appetite so you do not overeat when it is time to eat your main meals. Try to aim for 2-3 snacks a day.

Avoid eating 3 hours before bed: Do not eat or snack 3 hours before going to bed, because that slows your metabolism and makes it harder for your body to digest food which leads to weight gain.

Drink 3 liters of water a day: Try to carry a 1 liter water bottle around with you to help keep track of how much water you are consuming. You can also download water drinking reminder apps to help you remember to drink your water. Water helps remove waste and toxins out of your body, regulates body temperature, gives you healthy skin, prevents constipation, and more. (TMI: if your pee is yellow or light yellow, that is a sign that you are not drinking enough water)

Exercise 150 min. a week: As much as some don’t like it, our hearts and our bodies need it. Decide what type of exercise you need according to your goals by doing research (weight training, simple cardio, HIIT, ab workouts, or glute workouts) and try to aim for working out 150 min. a week. To ease into working out, you can start out with 10 min. and each week, new month, or when it gets easy for you, increase by 5 min. or 10 min. 

Get 7-8 hours of sleep & have a bedtime: Our bodies need rest. If our bodies do not get the rest it requires it will be more difficult to remember things, we will not be able to function properly, it can ruin our moods, and even cause us to gain weight. Make getting 7-8 hours of sleep one of your top priorities and make sure you are not sleeping too late by setting a bedtime. 

Listen to your body: If you are hungry, eat. If something upsets your stomach or causes you to bloat, stop eating it. You need to start treating your body like it is a precious baby, take care of it and listen to it. It is your temple, your machine, please treat it well.

Herbal tea & Vitamins: Drinking natural tea (ginger, green, peppermint tea)  has many benefits for the body, try to consume tea second thing in the morning (after drinking water first), or before bed. Some natural teas are known to lower cholesterol, fight cancer, detoxify the body, and more. Taking vitamins at a set time daily is also essential (double check with your doctor on the brand and do research before). Multi-vitamins are known to boost your immune system, improve skin, lengthen your hair, and strengthen your bones and nails.

Be Prepared:

Know where you're going, who you want to meet, and know what you'll be eating and drinking or what you'd like to have. Be prepared for all situation, pack essentials in your purse, and know what's going on in the world. If you want to meet a man in finance, read up about finance before you head out, if you're interested in men who are in business, read up about international business. Be prepared with different subjects to talk about, be physically prepared, and be prepared to meet people. You can't walk out of your home expecting to not succeed, walk out of your home with a positive attitude and know that you'll succeed in all of your endeavours. If you're going on a date some someone special or just want to meet someone specific, you need to be prepared for every possible situation, then you can handle everything that comes your way properly.

I used to steam and perfect my outfits, use a lint roller, and get my shoes and stockings ready and hour before I got in the shower and at least 2,5 hours before I did my makeup. I was always ready to go out. I was always in that mindset. I was the sort of woman who didn't like to bother with Mr. Right Nows, I liked to be in the mindset of knowing that I could easily go out and find my Mr. Right if I believed that I could. There's a mindset of success that you need to have, you can't believe you'll fail. I wanted to be with a man that I could thrive and grow old with, laugh and cry with, have late nights and early mornings with, and enjoy life in all it splendour with. I didn't see the point of going out over and over and trying life with a million men when I knew there's was only one for me. I didn't consider that of have to look forever, I only considered the fact that I knew that I would be happy and whole in the future with the man that I knew I'd marry.

Make a list of the things you won't negotiate:

What are the things that you'd never consider in a man you're with? Would you date a smoker or a drinker? Would you date a Protestant if you're a Catholic? Would you date a man who does casual party drugs? Would you live your life with a man who's seriously overweight and doesn't want to change? You need to make a list of the things that you would absolutely not consider in a partner, money comes secondary but the fact of the matter is that there's nothing worse than being with someone who you're supposed to love but wishing every moment that you were alone.

There are some men who don't want marriage, if you are desperate to be married, don't settle down with them. Put it on your non-negotiable list that you'd like to be married within 5 years and find a man that you'd like to be married to. There are men out there who want to be married and will propose to you, find one of them. There's no need to be with a man who doesn't want to marry anyone and try to convince him to marry you. You don't want to force anyone into marriage if they're not absolutely enthusiastic about being with you.

The proper man for you will propose to you when the time is right, the proper man for you will be the man you need to be with, and if he's willing to quit alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes to be with you, he'll do it without you feeling like you've forced him into making decisions that he doesn't want to do. When you find him, you'll know. There's nothing like having non-negotiables so you know exactly what you need out of a relationship and you know the sort of man that you're looking for. There's no shame in having expectations for someone.

Establish your longterm goals:

What do you want from life and from your marriage in 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, and 20 years? Where do you see yourself now and where do you want to see yourself? What do you want? You need to know what you want and have an idea of what you need within certain time frames. Would you like to be married within 5 years and have a baby within 7 years? Would you like houses? Do you want to travel? Do you want jewellery? What do you want? Figure out what you want beforehand so you have an idea of what sort of man you want to spend your life with. Your longterm goals need to match the longterm goals of your potential husband, if not, then you probably won't be compatible in the long run. If you have an idea of the goals and the things you want and you meet a man who's capable of giving you those things, consider a relationship. Once you find someone, you don't need to keep looking, it'll lead to disappointment. Once you find someone you love and want to be with, stop looking for someone better, settle down, and grow up.

Be candid about your values:

I'm a religious woman, even though Frederick was Lutheran when I met him, his paternal family is extremely Conservative and Catholic. I began going to Lutheran Church when I moved in with him in Sweden because it was convenient and because it was the church that his maternal family went to. When we moved to England, he realised that it would be easier to go to Catholic Church and he preferred it because it was familiar. I was raised with traditional values and Catholic values and he was as well. One of the reasons why we worked together was because of our similar values. If you're a conservative and very religious, it's probably not going to work out with a man who's an atheist and who's very liberal. Don't waste your time on men who don't have values similar to yours because they won't change.

I'm happy at home but I work 2 hours daily with my husband because he needs me. I leave the house. He's perfectly happy to let me leave if I want to. I'm always evolving and I'm happy with a man who's able to adapt. Do you have the same values towards Sex? Politics? Children? Religion? Staying home? Money? Know what you need from a man and know that you need to be certain with your choices. If you can't speak about things and agree, you need to consider how your life would be together. There's a reason conservatives date and marry conservatives, there's a reason Christian women date Christian men, and there's a reason why liberal men and liberal women marry and date. They all share similar values with each other.

List down all the men you meet and write down what you liked and didn't like about them:

For every date you go on and for every man you meet, write down what you didn't like and what you liked about them. It's important to know what you like in a man. You should list down qualities, hobbies, jobs, and other positive things that you like about the men that you've met that you like so you can begin to look for the things that they all have in common. If you know what you like, you'll have an easier time when it comes to finding what you're looking for in a potential husband.

Same with the negatives, list the negative things so you know what you don't like and don't think you'd like in a potential husband. If you meet men with bad behaviour, note that bad behaviour down so you have an easier time identifying it in a potential husband. Knowing all of the things that you consider negative and being able to identify them in a future husband are so important, you don't need to sift through men when you can take your list of negatives and make the process so much easier on yourself. Knowing what you consider negative and figuring out on your own time is so important to growing up and learning what you need in a potential husband.

I think it's much easier to make a list of all of the things that you do and don't like in men that you meet than to make a list with no experience. Yes, you can look up certain qualities and such and list them but what if you decide that you do like them? I thought that I could never love a man who was aggressive, Frederick threw one punch and took my ex boyfriend out and I realised just how much a little bit of aggression when defending my honour could light my fire. I dislike conspiracy theorists, I know the earth is round, and I could never be with a man who believed in conspiracy theories and thought the earth was flat. There's nothing to it.