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“Teachers are often unaware of the gender distribution of talk in their classrooms. They usually consider that they give equal amounts of attention to girls and boys, and it is only when they make a tape recording that they realize that boys are dominating the interactions. Dale Spender, an Australian feminist who has been a strong advocate of female rights in this area, noted that teachers who tried to restore the balance by deliberately ‘favouring’ the girls were astounded to find that despite their efforts they continued to devote more time to the boys in their classrooms. Another study reported that a male science teacher who managed to create an atmosphere in which girls and boys contributed more equally to discussion felt that he was devoting 90 per cent of his attention to the girls. And so did his male pupils. They complained vociferously that the girls were getting too much talking time. In other public contexts, too, such as seminars and debates, when women and men are deliberately given an equal amount of the highly valued talking time, there is often a perception that they are getting more than their fair share. Dale Spender explains this as follows: “The talkativeness of women has been gauged in comparison not with men but with silence. Women have not been judged on the grounds of whether they talk more than men, but of whether they talk more than silent women.” In other words, if women talk at all, this may be perceived as ‘too much’ by men who expect them to provide a silent, decorative background in many social contexts.”

Yk what fucks me up, that scene where Grace was playing the lava game w his students.... bc it literally foreshadows Grace’s entire character arc. His students hand him the 🌍 toy, asked about the Petrova line, and when he tries to pass, they were like “nope!🤚 you can’t pass” like it’s just a joke.

Careful, Love - Chapter 13: let me build you a little cabin in the woods

I think one of the things that really gets me is that yeah, Grace was doomed from the start in multiple different ways, but it was always out of love. He was doomed from the moment he was born because of the coma gene, out of love from his parents. He was doomed from the moment he started studying science and got his PhD., out of love for his field. He was doomed from the moment he asked Stratt to give him more Astrophage to study, out of love for his students. He was doomed from the moment he started working on the project, out of love for his planet. And then once he's in space, he almost dies trying to save Rocky from Earth's atmosphere, out of love for Rocky. Then he almost condemns himself to death to go back and save Rocky from the Taumoeba, thinking he will die for it, out of love for Rocky and also out of love for Erid.

What a privilege it is to get old.

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