Your yearly reminder that polyamorous people are queer in every sense that matters.
Unsupported by government, unable to marry the people we love. Risking consequences if we come out within our family, if we come out at our work, in custody arguments against a non-polyamorous person because we are considered a danger or bad influence on children. A challenge to heteronormative conceptions of what love and relationships are meant to be.
Most polyamorous people are queer to start with, because once you start questioning heteronormativity, you start asking other questions about what a sexual or romantic or committed relationship should be. But that doesn't mean that polyamory isn't inherently queer in and of itself.
Please don't forget us in your queer positivity posts. Please don't forget us when you think about what queerness encompasses.
I've seen countless people, many who are fellow queers, talk shit about poly relationships because "they never last", as if most relationships last? As if most people don't have several exes? Meanwhile I'm sitting here in my stable triad polycule that.... in a couple years I will have been in this polycule for as long as I was outside of it (you know, when I was a child). It's an open polycule too, we've all had relationships outside of the triad and we're all still good and happy with each other. My triad has outlasted my heterosexual parents' marriage by many many years.
Stop being weird about poly people. We're exactly as queer as the rest of queer people, and we need you to recognize that.
I have a couple of queer coworkers and a very queer-friendly workplace, for where we live.
The most our partner, who means the world to me and is just as much part of this relationship as my wife, has been mentioned as is "my friend".
I hate it. Jack is just as much my spouse as my wife is. But even in queer-friendly spaces it's not SAFE to say that. And that sucks fucking ass.
piss cold take. you are not oppressed in the same way & the normalization of the word “queer” as an umbrella term for the lgbt community is already uncomfortable for most people within it, and wanting to reclaim it as a straight cis person (i bet you’re white too) is tone deaf to all hell. aside from the sheer strangeness of pretending your struggles are anywhere near that of gay/ trans individuals (which is an identity and NOT a lifestyle choice), using a slur to feel “included” is so incredibly off-base and weirdly entitled. go forge your own community like the asexuals did
I’m an intersex nonbinary lesbian you absolute loser.
Asexuals are queer also.
okay? point still stands that being poly =/= lgbt. and this is probably news to you, but neither is asexuality. straight cis people aren’t lgbt, that’s kinda the point of the community! that’s why you make other communities! being “queer” (a term i hesitate to use because of its lack of definition and history as a slur, but to use your own words) isn’t just “outlier of society” bruh, nothing more anti-lgbt than this entitlement shit
honestly we don't want assholes like you in the lgbtqia+ community anyway. OR the queer community. So be off with your damn self and make your own post about your own community rather than hijacking this post that is clearly NOT ABOUT A COMMUNITY YOU ARE A PART OF, buh-bye.
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