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anyway as someone who is trans and gay, my aromanticism is the queerest thing about me 🤷‍♂️ for me, being queer means actively challenging society’s norms about gender and/or relationships. being trans isn’t a big part of my life since i’ve socially and medically transitioned and am living mostly stealth. being gay isn’t a big part of my life because i’m nonpartnering, so the attraction i feel never comes into fruition. but being aro? that shit affects me everyday. it’s changed my whole worldview. amatonormativity is a powerful force, intrinsic in our society, and it goes deeper than most alloallos probably understand. my mere existence as an aromantic defies the system most people don’t realize is in place. i’m queer because i’m aromantic, not in spite of.

it is entirely possible to platonically fall in love and there is absolutely no reason why that cannot be possible. in this essay I-

but what‘s the differencee between platonically falling in love and romantically??? one is friend one is partner? i don’t know and i am CONFUSED 😭😭😭 (asked by a pan girl,questioning herself YET AGAIN at almost midnight)

thank you so much for the answer,but i still can‘t differentiate platonically being in love and having romantic desires. is it just,like,all that lovey-dovey stuff? like cuddles,or dinners,or gifts? cause i do all of that with my platonic friends too...so,what is romance?? this goes out to all the romantic people. explain yourself

honestly i have no idea, not my department lmao. any alloros are welcome to explain because im equally stumped at this point

it is entirely possible to platonically fall in love and there is absolutely no reason why that cannot be possible. in this essay I-

but what‘s the differencee between platonically falling in love and romantically??? one is friend one is partner? i don’t know and i am CONFUSED 😭😭😭 (asked by a pan girl,questioning herself YET AGAIN at almost midnight)

wait sex is real?

no stop believing everything the liberal media tells you

It’s frustrating I’m (non sam)ace and JFC the amatonormativity in the ace community is so annoying they percive aces like me as alloromantic but won’t say. Ace on it’s own is almost always defaulted to mean alloromantic ace. I feel so uncomfortable in the ace community, God forbid i dont use the SAM that makes me an ignorant who’s “conflating”

"sexual desire and behavior has absolutely NOTHING to do with sexual attraction!!!" then what the fuck does your sexual orientation even MEAN if it doesn't impact your life in any real way!!!! god can people just shut the fuck up nobody cares that you still like to bone just stop bastardizing labels

like YES :) sexual attraction has absolutely nothing to do with sexual desire and behavior :) thats why we constantly see lesbians having and enjoying sex with men :) at the end of the day your sexual orientation means nothing :) at all :) everybody can go home :)

Aro culture is being fucking SICK of people brushing youre favorite characters aromanticism under the rug in favor of shipping YET GOING OUT OF THEIR WAY TO CONSTANT ACKNOWLEDGE THE CHARACTERS ASEXUALITY AND SPOUTING THAT "ACE =/= ARO!" NONSENSE WITH THE IMPLICATION THAT BEING ARO IS A BAD THING *I N H A L E S*...... Aro culture is being extremely upset, all the time, because this happens every single time a canon aroace character is created.