Look Alive, Sunshine.

And the dude was right. 

The rogue’s gallery of psych students and junior practitioners on this hellsite have hijacked my post about not being mean to yourself to explain to people how actually what I’m talking about is cognitive-behavioral therapy, and how it involves disciplining yourself to never talk negatively about yourself and how it’s important to check with a therapist that you’re doing it correctly, and like, this is why I don’t trust and can’t stand these people.

Being your own friend is a holistic process, there aren’t exercises you can do or therapy methods you can apply, which is why most people relapse almost immediately after stopping CBT or DBT, because they haven’t actually made any progress in how they look out for themselves, they were merely thrust into a disciplinary regimen where they are taught to engage in habits which their therapist then holds them accountable to, and so, without that therapist, they fall apart again.

Not being mean to yourself doesn’t mean censoring self-deprecating humor, it doesn’t mean snapping a rubber band on your wrist when you have a negative thought, it means taking time to sit down and think about yourself as if you were another person, to really take stock of who you are from as objective a perspective as you can muster, and if you really want to grow, realizing that this person you see can’t grow if the person closest to them, which is you, spends all their time berating them and making them feel like shit.

Deep-sea fish don’t know they’re blind. They’re not even aware there’s a way to experience the world that involves being able to visually interpret it.

Some animals have no sense of smell. The idea that things can emit an odor is totally lost on them.

Some creatures have no need for hearing. They can’t conceive of the idea that things make noise when they occur.

The only reason disabled humans know these things exist is because other humans can articulate them. The ability to communicate with each other is crucial to knowing about senses you don’t personally possess.

fish experiencing 3D space and specifically the living electrical presence of other animals with their midline, with such precision it allows them to do incredibly fast improv synchronized swimming

some trees physically and chemically connected to their entire species' population in an area, allowing them to feed each other and receive warning signals about predators (eg things eating them) from miles away. tree root telepathy but they don't have neurological tissue, let alone "brains"

animals with magnetite in their bones that allows them to sense and navigate by the earth's magnetic field

my gay wolf ass: