Paromancy

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If there is, functionally, no difference between the terms Willow/Willogenic/Willomancer/Willomancy and Tulpa/Tulpagenic/Tulpamancer/Tulpamancy, and the entire thing comes down to simply preference…

Then isn’t, at this point, the difference simply “I prefer to use a community created name” vs “I prefer to use a name that was taken from a book in 1927 and transformed by a white woman who was marketing off of Tibetan culture in 1929”?

we love you parogenic and willogenic systems!

we love you paros, parotives, and paromancers!

we love you systems who used to use tulpa language but have made the shift away from cultural appropriation!

we love you those in the pro endo community who are taking concerns of asian buddhists seriously!

we love you systems who are questioning their internalized biases and are trying to unlearn racism!

we love you systems who are advocates for change within tulpa and pro endo communities!

we love you systems who center and uplift voices of poc buddhist systems in their discussions of tulpa language!

we love you systems who are committed to positive change!

we love you systems who are pro tulpamancy as a practice and anti tulpa language and terminology!

we love you systems who are committed to calling out racism in their own spaces and communities!

we’ve seen some fearmongering stating that the goal of changing tulpa terminology is to divide the tulpa community from the endo community, to discredit tulpamancers and current research, and to make previous guides unusable. it sounds like some people are trying to frame this discussion as a group of anti endos attempting to tear apart the tulpa community. these are nasty rumors that are just untrue! we’d like to talk about how this transition away from culturally appropriative language could occur.

step one: acknowledge something’s wrong

the tulpa community needs to come together to address the racism in their spaces. we have seen folks on r/tulpas and in other spaces speak out on the cultural appropriation of their terminology, but they tend to get dogpiled and drowned out by folks who aren’t interested in listening and changing for the better. our own post we made was removed very shortly after submitting it! it’s imperative that the community learns how to center marginalized voices when discussing issues that directly affect them, while unlearning racial stigmas and biases along the way.

step two: find a new term

once it’s well understood that racism should not be tolerated, the community could choose a term that can best represent their experiences that isn’t rooted in the fetishization of central asian religion and culture. we’ve heard of parogenic, thoughtform, and willogenic as all potential new labels! our wife (who used to identify as a tulpamancy system) switched to willogenic for a while, but lately they’ve been vibing with “paro” as a replacement for tulpa and “paromancy” as a replacement for tulpamancy.

step three: updating resources and guides

this would involve changing website titles and communities, like “thoughtform.io” or “r/paros.”

when it comes to the wealth of resources and guides available, not every guide will need to be completely rewritten! it should be enough for folks to add disclaimers to the top of their works. something like “it has come to our attention that tulpamancy terminology is actually cultural appropriation. the author(s) of this work are switching to parogenic language in their every day lives.”

of course, if people want to completely rewrite their guides, they’re welcome to do so!! when this point is reached, we’d happily put our english degree and paper-editing experience to work by offering to rewrite guides for those who are interested in changing their language. it would be amazing if other plural writers could come together to help the community make this shift while maintaining current resources out there!

step four: reaching out to researchers

after the shift has been mostly achieved online, it’ll be time to contact research professionals. it could start with getting in touch with the authors and institutions that have already published tulpamancy research, explaining the community shift away from that language, and asking the authors of the works to include disclaimers about the terminology they used.

additionally, it could involve reaching out to those who are currently working on or completing tulpamancy research, and ask them to adjust their language use before their research is published.

language changes, and researchers should not only understand this but be more than willing to adjust the language that their research uses in order to better reflect the concerns of religious and racial minorities. this has happened in the past with slurs and terms like “transsexual,” which are now not used by researchers who study these phenomenon.

(note - we’re not comparing tulpa terminology to slurs here. we’re making the point that researchers have to change or adjust their language all the time, and this is no exception.)

step five: reaching out to the public

if anything, changing the terminology will improve public perception of plurality without trauma. to outsiders, it may seem like the community is coming together to deal with a racism issue that’s persisted for decades (which is true!).

people can reach out to reporters, write medium articles, and talk about this shift in language to people they care about in their own lives and in online spaces. if the community believes that change is possible, then it only becomes a matter of taking steps to achieve it.

we know that this shift will take quite some time to pull off, but the more people who get involved, the faster the change can happen! if you want to start small, you can start by daring to call out racism and cultural appropriation within your own community when you see it. even baby steps in the right direction count as progress!

we are not an expert on linguistics, and while we’ve existed in the tulpa community for over a year, we haven’t exactly been an active member. but these are our thoughts on how this language shift could occur. we’d be happy to discuss this more or answer any questions to the best of our ability!

and for those who haven’t seen it, please check out our document compiling asian/tibetan buddhist voices and their thoughts on tulpa language.

we have been in this community for over a decade, since the days of “tulpa threads” on /mlp/ and the days of Man’s and Irish’s Guides. We are also undersecretaries on Plural Nest.

In light of recent discussions, we began to feel that this was a terminology change worth encouraging, to set a clear distinction between our practices and those of Tibetan Buddhists.

While many systems formed spontaneously or as a result of trauma, there are many systems out there who were created as a conscious decision from the host, or someone inside! This is an incredibly important and valid plural experience, and this post is for those systems!

🔆 Shoutout to created systems who formed as a means to cope with loneliness, isolation, trauma, neurodivergence, disability, stress, or anything else!

💕 Shoutout to systems who had to devote lots of time, energy, and hard work into making your system what it is today!

✨ Shoutout to systems who were created through spiritual or metaphysical means!

🏵 Shoutout to those whose systems were created easily, whether on purpose or by accident!

🌿 Shoutout to tulpas, willomates, thoughtforms, soulbonds, and other headmates in systems who were created, whether consciously or unconsciously!

🌺 Shoutout to systems and headmates who use their own terminology or choose not to use labels to describe their creation!

💙 Shoutout to created systems who often doubt themselves, worry about being fakeclaimed, and sometimes struggle with their existence!

🌈 Shoutout to created systems who advocate for themselves and other created systems, and to those who have to mask for their own safety!

Listen - just because there is not much research into the existence of created systems does not mean that you are inherently wrong about yourself, your system, and what y’all experience. You know yourselves more than anyone else! If you truly believe you are plural, a system, or otherwise not alone in your own mind, please know that you are a welcome and integral part of the plural community just the way you are!

As always, we love y’all! We’re rooting for you! We believe in you! And we wish the very best for you! We may not be a created system ourself, but we want to stand up for and support y’all however we can. :)

Hi, I'm A [they/them or any neopronouns], I'm a queer nonbinary angled aroace Jewish omnialterous lesbian.

I rarely post original stuff. I reblog a lot of stuff about transphobia and antisemitism, and I don't really tag things, so be warned.

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we're an endogenic system and we do not give a fuck about harassment. let's do this shit

we are multiple people who share one body and one brain

as far as we're aware, this wasn't caused by trauma

we're all equally real, and all consider ourselves people

no, this isn't "multiple personality disorder," that's an outdated name for DID (which we don't have)

the two of us who use this blog most are Ian (ze/any) and A (they/any neos)

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