wannabe scream queen

the overt transmisogynist will likely demean her as some sick pervert, basing her idea of femininity off of the body types preferred by pornography/the patriarchy/what have you. you'll see this in terfs, in open fascists, i.e. bioessentialist circles. the argument that such trans women are, in fact, perverted men, reveals this as a permutation of the 'deceptive transsexual' stereotype. ¹

in contrast, the more subtle transmisogynist will adhere to the other of the two stereotypes. A trans woman who expresses a desire for large breasts in such circles will be instead met with patronizing words by the group - reprimands to the tune of, "Oh, honey, you don't want that! Just think of the back pain!" are perhaps the most common form of this. This form of transmisogyny often stems from those coercively assigned female at birth leveraging that social role as proof of possessing a proximity to femininity that the trans woman could not possibly have. She is considered new to misogyny - if they admit she faces it at all. Such transmisogyny appears most often in supposedly 'queer' social spaces - those where the only conception of 'top surgery' is that of the transmasculine.

me: hot chocolate, please.

barista: oh it’s perfect for a day like this isn’t it?

me: yes =)

barista: not a coffee drinker are you?

me: try something difference.

[3 minutes later]

barista: tall hot chocolate! have a great day.

a mother is singing her baby a lullaby for the first time, a shelter cat is going home with an excited family, a kid is starting the first pages of what will be their favorite book series, a couple in a long engagement is finally having their wedding, a gardener is stepping outside to see their produce flourishing and almost ready to be picked, a father is becoming a grandfather eager to hold his new little love, a teenager is putting the keys into their first car, someone is moving on from a break up and walking past a place they used to go with their ex without feeling an ache, a patient is taking their first steps forward after a long surgery, a child is getting all giddy with anticipation for their birthday party

wait until they find out that not only can cis women be born with XY chromosomes but *gasp* chromosome disorders don’t always make you infertile!! 😱