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✧ 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝 - 𝐄𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐚

✧ 𝐇𝐲𝐩𝐨𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐜 - 𝐄𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐚

✧ 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐜𝐡𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐝𝐞 - 𝐄𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐚

✧ 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 - 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐨𝐭𝐭𝐞 𝐃𝐚𝐲 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐬𝐨𝐧

✧ 𝐌𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧 - 𝐂𝐨𝐫𝐛𝐢𝐧

✧ 𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐚𝐟𝐞 - 𝐂𝐨𝐫𝐛𝐢𝐧

✧ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐅𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐔𝐩 - 𝐂𝐨𝐫𝐛𝐢𝐧

✧ 𝐈𝐦 𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐞𝐱 𝐓𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 - 𝐆𝐫𝐥𝐰𝐨𝐨𝐝

✧ 𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥 - 𝐊𝐚𝐥𝐢 𝐔𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐬

✧ 𝐁𝐫𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐥𝐲𝐧 𝐁𝐚𝐛𝐲 - 𝐋𝐚𝐧𝐚 𝐃𝐞𝐥 𝐑𝐚𝐲

✧ 𝐒𝐚𝐝 𝐆𝐢𝐫𝐥 - 𝐋𝐚𝐧𝐚 𝐃𝐞𝐥 𝐑𝐚𝐲

✧ 𝐍𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐞𝐧 - 𝐋𝐢𝐥 𝐏𝐞𝐞𝐩

✧ 𝐒𝐥𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐓𝐡𝐫𝐮 𝐔𝐫 𝐀𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐬 - 𝐋𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐮𝐬

✧ 𝐑𝐢𝐛𝐬 - 𝐋𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐞

✧ 𝐋𝐢𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 - 𝐋𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐞

✧ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐂𝐥𝐮𝐛 - 𝐋𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐞

✧ 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐞 - 𝐌𝐚𝐜 𝐌𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐫

✧ 𝐎𝐛𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐢𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐫 - 𝐌𝐚𝐜 𝐌𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐫

✧ 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 - 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐲𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭𝐝𝐨𝐨𝐫

✧ 𝐋𝐞𝐭'𝐬 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 - 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐲𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭𝐝𝐨𝐨𝐫

✧ 𝐑𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐍𝐨𝐰 - 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐲𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭𝐝𝐨𝐨𝐫

✧ 𝐀𝐧𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠 𝟐 - 𝐎𝐝𝐝 𝐅𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞

✧ 𝐇𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐒𝐢𝐱𝐍𝐢𝐧𝐞 - 𝐂𝐨𝐫𝐛𝐢𝐧

✧ 𝐂𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐲 - 𝐋𝐢𝐥 𝐁𝐨 𝐖𝐞𝐞𝐩

✧ 𝐈𝐦 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐎𝐧𝐞 𝐓𝐨 𝐂𝐫𝐲 - 𝐋𝐢𝐥 𝐁𝐨 𝐖𝐞𝐞𝐩

✧ 𝐓𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐃𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐅𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 - 𝐋𝐢𝐥 𝐁𝐨 𝐖𝐞𝐞𝐩

✧ 𝐏𝐢𝐧𝐤 + 𝐖𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐞 - 𝐅𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐤 𝐎𝐜𝐞𝐚𝐧

✧ 𝐖𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐔𝐫 𝐀𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 - 𝐁𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐫

✧ 𝐀𝐠𝐨𝐧𝐲 - 𝐘𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐧

✧ 𝐈 𝐖𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝟒 𝐔 - 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐛𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐅𝐨𝐱

✧ 𝐓𝐨𝐱𝐢𝐜 𝐂𝐢𝐭𝐲 - 𝐋𝐢𝐥 𝐏𝐞𝐞𝐩

✧ 𝐌𝐞𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 - 𝐊𝐚𝐥𝐢 𝐔𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐬

✧ 𝐈𝐦 𝐒𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐲 - 𝐀𝐦𝐞𝐞𝐫 𝐕𝐚𝐧𝐧

✧ 𝐂𝐚𝐧'𝐭 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐌𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 - 𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐲 𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐚

✧ 𝐃𝐢𝐞 𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐘𝐨𝐮 - 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐞𝐧𝐝

✧ 𝐁𝐥𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 (𝐇𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐌𝐞) - 𝐒𝐚𝐲𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬

✧ 𝐃𝐢𝐞 𝐅𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 - 𝐍𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚 𝐁𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐭

✧ 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐃𝐨 𝐈 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐔 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐌𝐞 - 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐞𝐧𝐝

✧ 𝐇𝐨𝐦𝐞 - 𝐂𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐭𝐨𝐰𝐧

✧ 𝐈 𝐇𝐨𝐩𝐞 𝐔𝐫 𝐌𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐔𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐔𝐫 𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐝 -

𝐍𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚 𝐁𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐭

✧ 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐦𝐛 - 𝐍𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚 𝐁𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐭

✧ 𝐌𝐚𝐝𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞 - 𝐍𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚 𝐁𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐭

✧ 𝐃𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐲 - 𝐍𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚 𝐁𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐭

✧ 𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐜𝐡 - 𝐍𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚 𝐁𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐭

✧ 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐍𝐮𝐦𝐛 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐎𝐧 - 𝐌𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐁𝐞𝐞𝐫

✧ 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐁𝐫𝐮𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐬 - 𝐌𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐁𝐞𝐞𝐫

✧ 𝐅𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐑𝐚𝐛𝐛𝐢𝐭 - 𝐌𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐁𝐞𝐞𝐫

✧ 𝐖𝐞 𝐆𝐨 𝐃𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐓𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 - 𝐃𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐫𝐨𝐧

✧ 𝐃𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐬 - 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐚 𝐏𝐨𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐡

✧ 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐇𝐞𝐥𝐥 - 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐚 𝐏𝐨𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐡

✧ 𝐕𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐚𝐧 - 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐚 𝐏𝐨𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐡

✧ 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐓𝐨𝐨 𝐌𝐮𝐜𝐡 - 𝐋𝐮𝐜𝐤𝐲 𝐃𝐚𝐲𝐞

✧ 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐌𝐞 𝐀𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧 - 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐲𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭𝐝𝐨𝐨𝐫

✧ 𝐌𝐢𝐬𝐬 𝐘𝐨𝐮 - 𝐎𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐓𝐫𝐞𝐞 & 𝐑𝐨𝐛𝐢𝐧 𝐒𝐜𝐡𝐮𝐥𝐳

✧ 𝐀𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲 𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥 - 𝐄𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐚

✧ 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐌𝐞 - 𝐒𝐚𝐦 𝐒𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐡

✧ 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 - 𝐇𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐞𝐲

✧ 𝐁𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐞 - 𝐒𝐢𝐚

✧ 𝐈 𝐇𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮, 𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐌𝐞 - 𝐃𝐞𝐦𝐢 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐨

✧ 𝐆𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 - 𝐇𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐞𝐲

✧ 𝐒𝐢𝐥𝐤 - 𝐖𝐨𝐥𝐟 𝐀𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐞

✧ 𝐓𝐮𝐦𝐛𝐥𝐫 𝐆𝐢𝐫𝐥𝐬 - 𝐆-𝐄𝐚𝐳𝐲

✧ 𝐂𝐫𝐲 𝐁𝐚𝐛𝐲 - 𝐌𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐳

✧ 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐒𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐚𝐠𝐞 - 𝐌𝐚𝐠𝐠𝐢𝐞 𝐋𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐧

✧ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐮𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐀𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐁𝐥𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 - 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐧 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐲

✧ 𝐒𝐞𝐞𝐤 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐃𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐲 - 𝐒𝐙𝐀

✧ 𝐎𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 - 𝐄𝐫𝐢𝐜 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐭. 𝐌𝐮𝐧𝐢 𝐋𝐨𝐧𝐠

✧ 𝐃𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐠𝐞 - 𝐇.𝐄.𝐑

✧ 𝐈’𝐦 𝐎𝐤𝐚𝐲 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 - 𝐒𝐚𝐫𝐚 𝐊𝐚𝐲𝐬

✧ 𝐌𝐞𝐥𝐭 - 𝐊𝐞𝐡𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐢

If feeling angry, restless, or splitting negatively:

Punch a pillow

pace around

scribble on a piece of paper till it all rips up 

throw something heavy, or lift something heavy 

Listen to loud, angry music and scream sing along with it 

scream in general. screaming is good for the soul

type all of your angry thoughts out into a notepad as they happen (you can review these later when thinking rationally)

if feeling depressed or lonely/needing attention you cant get:

Go for a nap. Your body honestly needs a lot of energy to deal with having bpd 

watch something upbeat but mind numbing. ASMR videos are our favourite! particularily the channel ninos home and tysytube restorations. Something that  is relaxing and engaging

Make sure to check if you’ve eaten, and try to eat a snack if you can. Hunger can have a huge impact on your mood. 

Try to clean yourself a little bit if possible. Dry Shampoo, wet wipes, and baby powder are your friends. even just changing your shirt can do wonders 

if you can, open a window. fresh air genuinely does help but going outside takes a lot of energy. if you cant do that, see if you can open your blinds to let some sunlight in 

if you can, take some vitamin supplements. a lot of people are lacking more than they think and it can have a large impact on mood 

try to work out some time to spend with your fp, or other friends and loved ones. people with BPD need a lot of attention, and it’s okay to ask your friends to provide some if you can. 

If you’re feeling dissociative or spaced out:

clap over and over till your hands tingle 

take a cold shower, or put your face in cold water 

Chew ginger or eat something spicy 

Drink something nice, and warm like hot cocoa and try to describe the flavour of it in as many words as possible

Do a grounding technique. Count 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell and one thing you can taste. 

General tips: 

I highly recommend people with BPD keep some sort of mood diary and write down their tiggers if they can. documenting your thought process when splitting, or when having mood swings, is very important for being able to prevent future breakdowns in the future 

Bpd isnt always screaming and throwing things in anger waiting for the rush of the releasing of breaking something, Sometimes its internalizing that rage into self sabotage and harming yourself for pleasure not just cause you want to die already.

Sometimes, its misdiagnosed as just depression and anxiety. The shitty thing is, medication wont "fix you" or "help" if you have it. Anti-depressants wont feel like they're making a difference like they should be doing.

BPD Isn't always feelings everything so strongly, sometimes its feeling absolutely nothing at all and that emptiness becomes addicting over time.

Clinging to anything that comes back to you. Cause you can even become attached to feeling certain ways and if you're not feeling that way... Your entire world feels like it's ending.

Bpd comes with horrible coping skills.

What's even more fucked.. We know whats wrong.. We know how to "fix it" buts its not an easy fix. Change is hard. REALLY hard with this condition. Being someone whose conscious of you BPD sucks, cause you're aware of how your friends and family probably see you, which probably causes you more anxiety.

So, then that leads us to our best friend.. Good old Disassociation.

Because why be hurt or hurt other people when you can just disconnect with your self and everyone around you and think about the burning pit that rages inside you and the horrible things your brain makes you think about yourself. BUT, DON'T WORRY! Somedays you'll be numb. Those days aren't so bad.

I also almost forgot OUR GOOD PAL MANIA.. We love our MANIC EPISODES always RIGHT BEFORE WE SHUT DOWN INTO DISASSOCIATION MODE.

BPD Isn't someone whose is toxic, a lot of times its just someone who was incredibly traumatized.