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1. Share your story with someone. Often it helps to put the sadness into words.

2. Try to detach and unplug for a while.

3. Respect your need for space, and a period of low stress.

4. Allow yourself to feel all the negative feelings.

5. Take care of your body and your physical needs.

6. Treat yourself with kindness.

1. Giving and receiving unconditional love

2. Having a solid friendship

3. A commitment to understand each other, and each other’s perspective on things

4. Having a relationship that is built on trust

5. Having, and demonstrating, genuine respect for one another

6. Sharing common values

7. Maintaining open communication, and making time to talk and share what’s on your heart

8. Not assuming you can read each other’s mind

9. Being able to disagree and argue in a respectful way

10. Relationship decisions are discussed and made jointly

11. Sharing laughter and fun

12. Doing things you enjoy together

13. Supporting each other’s individual interests (whether you share those interest or not)

14. Being willing to give and take, to be flexible, and to compromise at times

1. Talk to someone: Sharing how we feel helps to reduce the inner tension (but make sure it is someone who cares about your feelings).

2. Work on improving your self-esteem: Self-esteem is the way you see and feel about yourself … and there are lots of lots of things that undermine our self esteem. For example, experiencing a break up, putting on unwanted weight, doing badly on a test or being excluded by our friends. It’s important that we keep on working on our self-esteem by treating ourselves well and noticing when we succeed (instead of noticing the negatives).

3. Manage your stress levels: If we’re always feelings stressed then it’s hard to cope with life. We tend to over react and have a negative mind set … which drains us of our energy and saps our will to fight. So take a look at your lifestyle and see what you can drop. You may be doing too much, and don’t have time to relax.

4. Make the time and effort to enjoy yourself: Doing things that we enjoy helps to improve the way we feel. So build in little things like having coffee with a friend, or going to a game, or taking time to watch some sports.

5. Choose a healthy life style: Pay attention to your diet and how much you exercise; try to limit alcohol, and don’t deprive yourself of sleep.

1. Write it down, and try to summarise your thoughts and feelings in a short paragraph.

2. Set aside a specific time, and a specific amount of time, to think about the issue.

3. When you find yourself overthinking again, interrupt your thinking by distracting yourself.

4. Remind yourself that many problems solve themselves, and disappear, with time.

5. Change your environment.

6. Engage your brain in a demanding task.