Am I a parent even after a miscarriage? A question I often ask myself is, am I even a parent? I never gave birth so what does that mean? My answer is yes, you are a parent. You may never be able to see them crawl, take their first step, or know what their first word would be. You are still a parent. You conceived a child in your womb, you peed on a stick, hoping it would show two lines or it would be positive. Your heart raced when you went to tell your partner. Would they be happy? Scared? Were they prepared for the news? You scheduled your first appointment, you told your friends, you were so happy and excited. You found out your due date and started your prenatal vitamins. You are a parent. You have started worrying about your baby. You have started planning for your babies future. You are a parent. Then you go to your next appointment and the doctor says something isn't right. They want to run more tests just to make sure everything is okay. You go home, and you start bleeding. They tell you not to worry that it's normal to bleed. You worry anyway. It's your baby. The test results come back and that's when they tell you. You have had a miscarriage. Your heart sinks into your stomach and you feel like you can't breathe. You go home and cry yourself to sleep. You wake up in the morning and just for a moment, you forget. You forget that you lost your baby, you forgot that you will never get to meet your baby. How do you go on? How do you live your life knowing that you have lost a child? You are a parent. Don't let anyone tell you differently.Â
