naughty bottoms

It’s time for a spanking little one…

Let’s not make a big fuss about it sweetheart, I don’t want you getting too worked up over your spanking before the first stroke hits your bottom. Please don’t try to beg your way out of it either, this isn’t because you’ve been particularly naughty, nor is it because you did anything wrong. You aren’t going to be able to convince me that you don’t need a spanking.

You’re getting a spanking because you need it more than you realize little one.

I’m going to give you a spanking because I’ve noticed the ways you’ve tried to act like big girl without even noticing it. Whenever you try to have a snack without permission, or whenever you leave your dirty clothes on the floor instead of your hamper, or whenever your hand wanders to do dirty things in your diaper, it tells me that you need someone to remind you that you’re not an independent woman, you’re my baby girl.

I’m going to give you a spanking because I want you to feel my presence. I think that sometimes you forget that I’m close to you even when we are far apart. The next time that you’re home alone or napping in your crib by yourself, the sting of a freshly spanked bottom will remind you that I’m not as far away as the distance would have you think.

I’m going to give you a spanking because you need to appreciate your diapers. Yes, you’ve done a good job at accepting your role as my baby girl, and I’m very proud of your regression so far. However, I want you to feel safer with padding on your rear end, so when I take down your pants and unfasten your diaper, I hope you realize how fortunate you are to have a padded tushy most of the day to protect you from a bare-bottomed spanking more often.

I’m going to give you a spanking because you need to have a good cry. I don’t want you to feel sad sweetheart, but I do want you to know it’s okay to show daddy that you’re upset, and crying is the natural way. When you’re over my lap for your spanking, you’re going to see how good it feels to cry, even it takes a firm hand on you bottom to bring out those beautiful little tears.

I’m going to give you a spanking to let you release control. It’s so hard to do everything for yourself, so allow me to let you do nothing but lay across my lap for a few minutes. Yes, you will feel the pain a spanking, but even more importantly, you’re going to feel the relief of having no control. When your diaper is pulled down and your hands are bound in front of you, you won’t even have to think about protecting your bottom, because daddy already thought of everything.

So come with me to the bedroom baby girl, the paddle is waiting for you. I’ll let you walk while holding my hand if you want, or I can carry you if you need me to. When it’s all over I promise you can go back to having fun, or we can put you in timeout right after its over if you don’t want to accept that daddy knows best.

One way another, we’re going to spend a little time focusing on your bottom today, and you’re going to see how important a spanking is for little girls.

Connect: Talk to her about her spanking before you put her over your knee. Make sure she knows what she needs to work on and what you expect.

Position: Most manageable position is over your lap with her upper body supported on a couch or bed. The spanking should be uncomfortable- not the position.

Give a warm-up: A warm up spanking is a brief spanking (of slightly lighter spanks) conducted prior to the main spanking to “prepare” the nerves of the buttocks for the strikes that will follow. The purpose of a warm up spanking is to bring the nerves of the buttocks to the surface, which greatly reduces the likelihood of bruising. Warm up spankings are done with the hand or a wooden spoon, and typically do not exceed much more than 20 strikes.

Lecture: Take a short moment between the actual spanking and the warm up to lecture her. Lecture her and scold during the whole spanking. A certain amount of silence is fine as well but lecturing helps set and maintain the discipline mood ( so at least every 2 minutes or so). You can have her answer questions about her behavior - but careful not to do too much of this because she needs to focus on the spanking you are giving her.

Spanking: This may take longer than expected. Be prepared to settle in for awhile. Sometimes 1000 solid hand-spanks or more. A good spanking can take as much as 45 minutes to an hour. You may need to consider other implements if your hand gets sore. Her sin may be bright pink or reddening. Occasionally small scratches or blemishes may bleed. Avoid that area. Putting lotion on the bottom before starting can be helpful to avoid chapping/minor breaking of skin.

~ Get a good rhythm

~ Alternate cheeks

~Lock her legs if need be

~Hold her wrist or hand when she reaches back

~Don’t stop too soon - she needs to experience the lack of control that she has in this moment. The discipline doesn’t really start until she wants it to stop.

~Spank until she is submitting. Most of the fight has gone out of her and she is accepting the spanking.

Dear NSPoSB,

         Look, I hate the term “spanko”, but it is widely used to describe a person with very specific experiences. If your partner has a spanking fetish, it’s been with them their entire lives. They probably looked up “spanking” in the dictionary by the time they got to 3rd grade. Then they probably looked it up many times after that, without really understanding why. They might have reread those scenes in the Little House books that featured spankings, or else watched with rapt attention if there was a spanking in a movie. Then, one day, they probably typed “spanking” into whatever search engine was popular at the time (I wonder, did anyone ever ask Jeeves about spanking? Surely they did).

         It can be hard talking about the spanking bug. Here are some things you should know.

1.     It’s almost impossible to talk about.        

I don’t think that I am the only spanko who blushes just to hear the words “spank”, “discipline”, “punish”—or anything related. And forget about saying them aloud. Somehow we learn early on as children that we cannot talk about our weird fascination with spanking, and then it becomes a secret that we carry with us for decades. The longer we carry it with us, the harder it is to speak. I didn’t tell a soul until I was 17, and I still can’t talk about it aloud. I can’t even type it if I think that it will be read by someone I know. It’s difficult to communicate what we want and unfair to you. I’m sorry.

2.    It’s not a sex thing. Except when it is.

When we tell you we like spanking, you’re probably thinking foreplay. That’s not what we mean. For many of us, spanking is a drive that runs parallel to our sex drive. The spankings that we want can be entirely non-sexual. Many of us look for spankings that are disciplinary or therapeutic in nature. A good spanking is a cure for many things: stress, grouchiness, attitude, sass.

But spanking and sex aren’t entirely unrelated, either. If we don’t have spankings in our lives, our sex drive plummets. Spankings outside the bedroom can have a very real effect on what happens inside the bedroom, even without a single sexual spanking. Personally, I’d rather live my life without sex than without spanking.

3.    Spank harder than you think.

There are a lot of people who are into spanking a little bit—like a couple of smacks on the ass during sex—but spankos want a real spanking. That’s a lot more involved than what normal people want when they say they like being spanked. Spankos want to you take them to a straight-backed armless chair, tip them over your knee, and spank their behind red. And they probably want you to scold them while you do.

Obviously, this differs depending on the individual. But in general, I know mostly spankos who would much rather get spanked a little too hard than be left feeling unsatisfied. A good way to do this is to start spanking with your hand, not too hard, maybe over their clothes, and progress to spanking their bare behind. Maybe you use a hairbrush or other implement as the spanking reaches its climax.

Lots of spankos would love to cry from a spanking. Some of us just can’t no matter how painful it is. Some of us (ahem, me) cry from two swats with a paddle. You’ll just have to make your partner tell you their limits. Consider using a safeword if they want to be able to resist the spanking without stopping it.

NSPoSB, there are so many things that your partner is trying to imply when they say, “I’m into spanking.” I know that I haven’t covered all of them, but I hope it’s a start. Dig deeper into what they mean. Ask them specific questions. Make them answer in writing: it will probably get you more detailed answers. And know that you are doing your partner a huge service by participating in this deeply-rooted need that they have.

Love,

I get so easily into a state of oppositional defiance, just stomping around pointing, refusing to give even when I may of made my point several times over to you.