Down Goes Frazier

Let me tell y'all about the moment that Big K.R.I.T. brought out the one and only Miss Jill Scott to perform “Higher Calling” with him……. I lost my MFn mind!

Polaroids by Andy Warhol

Bianca Jagger (1971)

Valentino Garavani (1973)

Tina Turner (1975)

Pele (1977)

Liza Minnelli (1978)

Diana Ross (1981)

Jean-Michel Basquiat (1983)

Grace Jones (1984)

Joan Collins (1985)

Vintage Black Music Magazine Covers

Marvin Gaye 

Albert King 

Tina Turner 

Curtis Mayfield 

Roberta Flack

Betty Davis

Barry White 

Bob Marley 

Chaka Khan 

It won’t get better for LGBT youth of color until we identify and dismantle the ways we’ve normalized racism. Gabe hits it on the head:

1. Recognize that you have choices. Usually people-pleasers feel as if they don’t have a choice, and they have to say yes when someone asks for their help. But you DO have a choice – and it’s Ok to say no.

2. Decide on your priorities. If you already have commitments or you have set priorities then it’s easy to say no as you’ve a genuine “excuse”. Do what matters most to you, and please remember - it’s your life!

3. Stall for time – don’t give an answer right away. Say you need a bit of time before you make up your mind. That allows you time and space to think about the consequences. For other things will likely suffer if you take on far too much.

4. Don’t be afraid to add conditions to your yeses. For example, say that you’ll only say yes if someone else says yes as well – or only take on a new task for a set period of time.

5. Are you being manipulated? There are plenty who will use you to ensure their plans succeed, so watch out for those compliments and empty flattery.

6. Be firm when you say no. The first time you say no it feels uncomfortable and hard. But once you’ve done that a few times it starts to feel much easier. Also, if you sound confident then others take you seriously.