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ii. I miss you on a busy afternoon, with all the paperworks piling up beside me.

iii. I miss you on a quiet night, when the rest of the world is already asleep and it is just me and the starless sky of the town.

iv. I miss you on days I go to beautiful places, taking pictures with the gorgeus art and exceptional architecture, wishing you were smiling at the camera next to me.

v. I miss you even when I do not have time to think and feel anything.

vi. I miss you you even when I am laughing hard at something — a close observer would see how, for a millisecond, my eyes would lose its sparkle, the smile fading a little, because I would realize I will never get to share it with you.

vii. I miss you even when I do not have the time to miss you.

They become mountains, but hidden beneath the ground. They are so much. Too much to hold.

Too much to even look at.

And then something will happen. A crack will appear in the earth's floor, and there it is. There it will be standing, mighty, as it was all along. But now forcing you to face it. The whole of it. Here is where many people break or run. Overwhelmed by the size of this mountain, that's been there all along. Too awful to look at.

Here is where you have to plant your feet firm.

Cry. Bend, bow, beg God for help.

But keep your feet planted firm. This is 'ribaat' (to remain stationed).

God says: "Oh you who have believed, persevere and endure, and remain stationed, and fear Allah that you may be successful" (3:200)

1. Don’t pay too much attention to the way you feel. Feelings change throughout the day and are unreliable. Don’t let them rule your life, or interfere with your goals.

2. Decide not to worry as it tends to make things worse. If you focus on your worries it will drain your energy – and often what we’re dreading doesn’t happen anyway.

3. Cut the internal commentary. Stop telling yourself that things are going to fall apart, or your efforts won’t succeed, or you won’t be popular. Keep trying, moving forwards, and getting on with life.

4. Stop being self-critical. You need to be your own cheerleader and your biggest fan in life. Note progress, perseverance, attitude and inner strength. Be affirming, kind, believing and coach towards success.

5. Stop feeling guilty. Feeling guilty changes nothing. You are going to make mistakes. Accept you aren’t perfect - then get up and try again.

6. Stop worrying about what others think of you. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what they think. Choose your own goals for your life – you’re not accountable to them.