oncewasvon

So true.

The well-adjusted adoptee…

So true!

Lost Birds: Displaced, Adopted Native Americans Look to Find Their Way Home

via Lost Birds: Displaced, Adopted Native Americans Look to Find Their Way Home

We have reached that time of year that bears no resemblance to the seasons of the Northern Hemisphere imposed by the first settlers who stole the land and imposed everything they knew and were upon it. It is a beautiful season, neither Winter nor Spring, which has it’s own name if only I knew it. There is rain and sun, silver drops bejewelling leaves and flowers and growth is fast, the many…

An adoptee view of adoption trauma

Another insightful, useful post and a must read.

Family reunification & resistance

Thank you John for our perspective and clarity.

“Let all sorrows ripen in me,” said Shantideva, the Buddhist saint. “We help them ripen by passing them through our hearts… making good, rich compost out of all that grief… so we can learn from it”.

Since I posted the above there has been plenty of compost making. I became a Grandmother to a Grandson who did not survive. He is forever in my heart, loved and learned from, remembered daily.

My…

For your enjoyment and information.

They do not speak for me and they shit me to tears

“This language is specifically gendered. For over 2,000 years, reason has been attributed to masculinity, while emotion is framed as feminine. And that is why, as a feminist and a woman, I will refute and respond and write as many takes as I like on the horrible, harmful, and heartless ideas espoused by the likes of Daisy Cousens, Helen Andrews and Georgina Downer.”

How childhood trauma could be mistaken for ADHD

Not particularly well written but interesting.

It’s Not About You…

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Still being told how to behave!

Some Thoughts on Identity

Tim Lawrence writes – “I was also able to forgive the young man who had done this to me. I will never condone what he did, but I did come to accept that it happened. In that acceptance, I learned to be courageously vulnerable on my own terms, free of the chains that abuse had suffocated me with for so long.  Today I’m much more confident with myself and in my relationships, I have a much…

The Colour of Time

New publication on Australian adoption.

“Gotcha Day”

TAO writes on the offensive Gotcha Day and noted the comment which included the thought that the only important day for one adoptee was the day ‘she was officially ours’. I wonder what the adoptee will think as she grows up?

X-Plan: Giving your kids a way out (#xplan)

Treating our young people with respect, allowing their independence but giving them an escape hatch.