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People ask me for info about rope bondage and Shibari, here are a few basic starters…

May 13, 2021: Thursday Morning

“ I can confirm that he is in fact in jail for enticement of a minor and many more charges to do with having sex/sexting with a 14 year old girl. I believe he has 5 years left of his sentence. “

Holy Fuck.

Super prison system we have here in America. Nothing like locking up a pedophile but continuing to allow him access to minors from the inside every day.

It seems like he really took you into his confidence. If you happen to know what prison he’s in, and are willing to tell me, I can make it so we don’t see him around here for about five years. 

I think everyone needs space from their partners to engage in other types of relationships every now and again. When my Pip is out with other people, it wouldn’t occur to me to think it was because she didn’t want to talk to me. If this is every Thursday, where is his attention the other six nights of the week?

December 26, 2019

Are you saying you had an intense scene, and once it was over, before you were put back together, he just announced things were over and got up and left?

If this is what you’re telling me:

A. I’m sorry - that’s about the shittiest thing I’ve heard in a while.

B. What an asshole.

C. This isn’t your fault. This is a HIM problem. 

I don’t believe you’re showing signs of an extended drop. I think you are showing the signs of someone who has been abandoned. The “worthless, needy and humiliated” are symptoms I see from girls who have been abandoned - AKA Ghosted - by their partner when they don’t want to deal with challenging feelings or responsibilities. I talk to girls every week who talk about feeling this way after being abandoned. Work on coming to terms with the fact that what he did was dysfunctional and abusive, and that you in no way invited or deserved his sudden departure. I hope you heal quickly and well. 

There are definitely too many girls who find our community, and in discovering it all, rush into online relationships and give away their submission too easily. The answer to your question is most certainly “Yes”. 

February 4, 2020

This is an easy one to fix. 

Submission is a voluntary action. You chose to submit to him. Now choose not to. Take off the collar. Who you choose to submit to or not submit to has always been within your power. You don’t need to get permission from the shelving asshat who wants to emotionally manipulate you into staying with him. If he wants to sort why women keep leaving him and “breaking his trust”, (what he does to you every time he shelves you) he needs to find a damn mirror. Ignoring partners makes them want to leave you. SURPRISE!! My advise is to send him a picture of the empty collar with the caption “GAME OVER”. 

Submission is a voluntary action. You decide when it starts You can decide when it ends

April 5, 2020: Afternoon

We don’t frame what you are talking about the same way here. When Pip is feeling less than secure about something, she is encouraged to express whatever it is, and I’m happy to provide her with the VALIDATION she needs to hear in that moment.

Seeking validation from a partner when you are not feeling secure about something, is something everyone should try and make room for in their dynamics. The alternative is that you sit and stew with insecure feelings and let them gnaw at you.

Now that you’ve made me think about it, the phrase, “fishing for compliments” sounds like a victim blaming defense a man would employ when he’s made to feel like he doesn’t freely compliment his girl as often as he should. Your bf should either compliment you sufficiently, or learn to appreciate that he has the power to make you feel better about yourself with some simple validation, and stop framing it like you should feel wrong for wanting to hear him say nice things about you. Good luck.