Piece of Advice

Trust vs. Love: 7 Truths To Why Trust Is More Valuable Than Love

The ultimate universal truth is that we should trust someone that we love. To have a healthy relationship or an overall healthy life, we must take the risk in believing in someone or something. Too often, we mistaken love as being the one thing that conquers all. Sadly, this gives us a false hope and forces us to accept the harsh reality that love is NOT enough. Two individuals may love each other with all their hearts, but they both know that the relationship has been damaged due to the lack of trust. Here are 7 truths to why trust is more valuable than love: 1. Trust is the foundation of love. If you don’t trust a person, how can you love them? Trust precedes love; we can only truly love someone that we can trust. Trust is something that is earned through actions. It is the sense of security that allows both parties to expose themselves fully without any judgments or fears. If someone can break your trust in any way, shape, or form, it isn’t true love. 2. Trust is enough; love is NOT enough. Trust is enough because trust is an attribute of love. Trust enhances love. We can love someone because we once trusted him or her, but as soon as that trust is destroyed, that initial love that was built on trust, isn’t enough. 3. Trust is NOT blind; love is blind. Trust, initially, is an emotional act. We must be vulnerable and trust that someone will accept us and learn to love us. However, once the trust that is built is destroyed, it is based more on a logical and intuitional act. Trust will not blind us from the facts. Love, on the other hand, is blind. Because we are accustomed to trusting someone and thinking he or she will never break our trust, our emotions get the best of us and do not allow us to face the sad truth. The love we have for a person clouds our judgment and instills fear within us; the broken trust allows us to see the harsh reality of the situation and face that fear. 4. No relationship will survive without trust. Trust is the central pillar supporting any real relationship. Building trust in a relationship takes hard work and commitment. Trust requires that we listen and communicate our wants and needs to our partner. Above anything else, trust requires honesty. Once trust is built, it should be maintained throughout. Once that trust is broken, it is almost impossible to go back to the way things were without the doubt and the fear of trust being broken again. A relationship that thrives on lack of trust will infuse uncertainties and insecurities in the relationship, either causing both parties to hate one another or the overall relationship to self-destruct. 5. Trust allows us to believe. Trust not only allows us to believe others, but it allows us to believe in ourselves. We do not believe in ourselves until someone else puts his or her trust in us. If he or she makes us believe that we are capable of doing anything, then we start to believe it ourselves. 6. Trust allows us to love, again. Trust always leads to love. After our trust has been broken, we are more cautious about whom to trust again. Better yet, whom to love again. This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t trust anybody. It simply means that we are aware that trusting someone is a risk, and that risk can either create an everlasting love or destroy it. 7. There simply is no ‘us’ without Trust.

- Sheena Amin, Contributor

“Masyado na tayong nasaktan, masyado na rin tayong nakasakit. There’s been betrayal. There’s been lies. And even if I know you didn’t want to hurt me, ginawa mo pa rin eh. And we’ve just become two different people, Anton. 

- Rafi (A Secret Affair Movie)

Minsan hindi na niya na naiisip kung nasasaktan ka na niya kasi kampante na siya na mahal mo siya kaya minsan yung mga ginagawa niya akala niya okay lang.. pero hindi niya alam na nakakasakit o nasasaktan ka na kahit hindi niya intensyon na saktan ka.

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“Sometimes you have to let go things or the person you love even though you don’t want to..”

Sometimes even though you want to be the reason or part of his / her happiness, you just can’t.. it is simply because you are not belong in which makes him / her happy in his / her life. 

It’s painful and heartbreaking especially if that’s what you really wanted.. since you love him / her the important is as long as his / she’s happy even though your not part of it you will be happy for him / her.

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Just because you know that someone has feelings for you, you have the right to take advantage his / her feelings towards you. For your information, you have no rights to do that! You don’t even have the right to give mixed signals just because you know you can get something from him / her! Don’t be selfish for your own sake! Nobody wants to be played and take their feelings advantage of by liking someone who doesn’t know what he / she wants or who is unsure about his / her feelings.

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Sometimes your fears is the culprit in your lives. Fears that stopping you for doing things you know might lead to the best opportunity whether its about career, love, or happiness in your lives. You have to learn to drop each of your fears so you can experience the things you thought you can’t imagine or do. You have to learn to take every risk in your life especially when you know its about your happiness.

Always remember that taking risk and getting what you want doesn’t mean stepping to others happiness. Take a risk because you know it will make you a better person.

You can’t be with someone just like that..

You two needs to have a willingness to fight for each other.

You two needs to be brave enough to face and surpass all the trials to be together.

You two needs to do some sacrifices and compromises to work things out.

The most important you two need is to love each other unconditionally / endlessly because its love will always make you together.

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