Norah

Norah, she/her.

Follow me if ur a trans woman (literally the only reason im online is for community so please say hi, my DMs are open)

I'm an anime nerd & transfeminist.

Going on radfem blogs is such a trip. With me being a staunch feminist, I agree with so much of what they're saying. Yes, women suffer extremely horrific gendered violence and rape. Yes, women's reproductive labour is thankless and disregarded. Yes, girls are taught to be subservient to men and pressured into a lower social role that is seen as worth less than men. But then when it comes to trans, nb and intersex people, they turn into adolf hitler. They refuse to accept that everything they are protesting against also befalls trans women. We suffer gendered violence and rape, our labor is devalued a lot, we are seen as lesser and expected to be submissive and deferential to men. I don't understand how a group of people could so blatantly be right on so many aspects of feminism but fail when it comes to trans women.

I'll come across a post denouncing gender essentialism then the next post will be about how trans women can never be women. So much cognitive dissonance, they denounce gender essentialism in one breath then enforce it in the next.

"One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman" what do they think Simone de Beauvoir was talking about? If you understand that "woman" is a social category cis women are thrust into, how can you not understand that people can choose to adopt that social position willingly. Social categories are fluid and malleable. We know the gender performativity theory for goddess' sake. If one can be coerced into a gender, one can definitely choose their gender also. The existence of trans women should prove to you that 1) sex and gender ARE social constructs just like feminists theorized and 2) a woman is something worth being, that the desire to live as a woman and be seen as a woman is a refutation of the idea that women are lesser. Shouldn't the existence of trans women be a total vindication of what feminism stands for? "Biology is not destiny" should mean not only that your uterus shouldn't doom you to a life of subservience and sexual slavery but also that supposedly male biology cannot stop a woman if she really wants to self actualise and thrive as a woman. The fact that trans women see being a woman as aspirational should make obvious the worth of women. The fact that we spend so much time, money and effort in the act of becoming a woman should be a comfort to you. But they never see that. They only see us as weird fetishists and misogynists when the complete opposite is true. You don't aspire to something you hate. Racists do not seek to be black and misogynists do not seek to be women.

Radfems are right on like 90% of their grievances but then when it comes to trans women (and sometimes black men, which surprised me) they are no different than bigots like self described christian nationalists like matt walsh & chris rufo or the denizens of 4chan & kiwifarms. It's so jarring reading radfem blogs because one second your reading feminist theory and abortion rights and stories of the struggles of women in the global south and the next second you're reading the most vile, disgusting, bigoted transphobia youve ever seen in your life. Like suuuper rancid shit no different than the murderous fantasies of racists and fascists.