Or, let me rephrase that: an annual day where Muslims in the USA are scared to leave their homes. If you have Muslim friends or neighbors - watch their backs. Check up on them. Without fail, every year, there’s always an attack. Every year someone I know or someone I know by extension becomes a victim.

One year I had to go pick up my roommate from the library because she was too scared to leave. Some grown ass men had followed her there throwing rocks and yelling threats.

Another year I got a knife threat slipped into my mailbox.

Another year someone shot up the side of our mosque while we prayed for peace inside.

Check up on your neighbors and call out racist and islamophobic behavior where you see it. This year, with all the unrest and elections coming up, it’s bound to be bad and everyone I know is already on edge and taking precautions.

to reiterate:

Check!! In!! On!! Your!! Muslim!! Friends!! And!! Neighbours!!

The majority of Muslims in the USA aren’t even immigrants or Pakistani, or Indonesian or anything else - the highest percentage is actually African American.

There's also how fat women are almost always forced to be masculine. Our fat is gendered against our will, and we aren't seen as "real" women. Since a lot of people connect masculinity to topping and dominance, women who are fat and submissive tend to be forced into a dominant, topping role. This further solidifies our self-hatred, our feelings of not being "small" enough, and the gendering of our bodies. This also causes many fat women to have sexual experiences they didn't want, that hurt them emotionally, mentally, physically because their toxic lover coerced them into a role they weren't comfortable with. When your body feels as if it's been violated, this further causes fat women to have a harder time being intimate, something many fat people have difficulty with due to fatphobia.

Sometimes submission can also come with some humiliation and vulnerability. This is harder to allow due to society's fatphobic abuse. Humiliation and vulnerability become an everyday occurrence for fat people. Even if a fat person wants to enjoy that sexually, it's incredibly hard not to connect self-hatred and fear to the desire for vulnerability. Just allowing oneself to have this sort of relationship requires breaking down countless walls built over years and years of undeserved shame and ridicule.

Fat people are extremely sexualized by fat fetishists as well while simultaneously facing the extreme opposite by fatphobes. There is rarely representation of a fat woman having sex in a positive, healthy relationship. Many fat people will get into a relationship and end up abused by a fatphobe or fat fetishist, and this can especially be a problem for someone who is fat and submissive.

Another problem is how a submissive fat person can run into the problem of only ever pleasuring their partner and not receiving pleasure themself. This is because submission often involves pleasuring the other person, and being self-conscious of your body makes it difficult to allow someone else to touch or pleasure you. The anxiety, adrenaline, and fear shoot through you as the other person begins to lift up your shirt. You ask to turn off the lights. You tell them it's okay, you don't need them to reciprocate...because it's easier to just focus on their body than yours and the terror of what they might think or say when they touch a stretch mark, a round thigh, a face with as much weight as the fear present in its eyes.