Solidarity Outside The Binary!

Get to know them and get to know parts of their life they share if you

Show them you see them

Respect the things they do and don't want to be called

Tell them you love them. Or care for them. Or that you respect them. Or all of those.

Appreciate the Nonbinary people in your life.

It is why I made this piece when I found out enbian exists, even though Im an enby and a boygirl, I love the fact that we have a word for our relationships and it doesn't have to be chalked up to "like mlm" "like wlw"

Above are two non binary characters that I created. On the left is Umeko, who is genderqueer and genderfluid although remaining primarily queer even if its gender shifts, and uses any pronouns. He's also a fat and disabled person, she uses a wheelchair during bad days and has strabismus.

This is Yinmn, who is the character on the right. They use they/them exclusively and describe their identity as non binary. Here they're introducing themself using asl as they're mute. They'd be a fencer and they adoree a birds.

I have more art of non binary characters, I love the range of our different experiences and exploring them through characters, and I love to give non binary people all kinds of meaningful relationships and representation. Agender, multigender, non binary, demigender, genderflux and genderfluid, unlabeled and labeless people, androgyne, I just like learning new labels, hearing about others' experiences and with my characters, see what their relationship to gender is.

I love non binary people and I love being non binary<333

[ID: the first image is the two characters, Umeko and Yinmn, hugging. Umeko hugs Yinmn from the side and kisses them in the cheek. Yinmn touches Umeko's cheek and looks at it affectionately. Umeko and Yinmn are surrounded by the purple inscription that says "Enbian love" and several purple sparkles. Yinmin is dark-skinned and has dark wavy hair. the left side of their hair is cut short, and the right side of their hair is long. they have a painting in the center of their forehead. it's a dot and three leaf-shaped pieces going left, up, and right from the dot. Umeko is described in the next picture's description.

the second image is Umeko in the wheelchair. it sits, winkles, and waves his hand. xe is light-skinned, tall, and fat. they have shoulder-lenth blonde hair with purple tips. a yellow butterfly sits in his hair. Umeko is dressed in the long dress that gradients from blue and green to yellow and orange. eir wheelchair is brown and looks similar to the armchair with wheels.

the third image is a sketch of Umeko standing using a cane. xe looks forward, smiles, and makes a thumb-up with its right hand.

the fourth image is a gif of Yinmn smiling and introducing themselves in ASL. end ID]

thank you for adding the ASL translation of what Yinmn is saying!

we need enbian relationships in media. in popular media. (in every media...)

we need enbian relationships being clearly depicted as enbian. we need nonbinary characters whose nonbinarity isn't easy to brush off.

we need various enbian relationships. we need monogamous and polyamorous enbian relationships. we need romantic, platonic, sexual, queerplatonic, and any other enbian relationships.

we need enbian relationships that include enbians of different backgrounds. enbians of colour. disabled enbians. young enbians. elder enbians. fat enbians. intersex enbians. enbians with different gender expressions, different genders, different pronouns, different styles.

we need people to accept these enbians without trying to binarize them and their relationships.

we need enbians to be in the main casts and not just at the background.

we need stories focusing on enbian relationships. and we need stories treating enbian relationships casually, like other stories treat non-queer relationships.

we need enbian stories!

i have little to no examples of how relationships like mine could work, and i have to build them myself. it is difficult and complicated, but it's also beautiful.

people treat my relationships and (a lack of) attraction as non-existent or non-important. i experience a lot of invisibility and erasure.

it's hard to find a label that fits because most of the labels weren't designed with my experiences in mind.

"can i use binary terms for you?"

i don't accept any binary-gendered terms like bro, girl, dude, sis, queen, king, he, she etc. an extra fuck you to the people who use those terms for me without even asking. all of them are misgendering.

"are you just saying this for attention?"

i say i'm nonbinary because i'm nonbinary. most of the attention this gets me is negative; i'm not gaining anything socially by saying i'm nonbinary. i am extra loud about it in certain contexts though because nonbinarity and the issues we face do desperately need more attention from our allies and even our own communities. this is attention i want on the cause though, rather than on me as an individual.

"do you tell everyone?"

i'm way too much of an anxious mess to come out to everyone. especially in interactions with people i'll never see again and i wasn't misgendered, i don't see the point of coming out. heck, i never even came out to a lot of my doctors or my first 0&m instructor, people i see/saw somewhat regularly. and especially in germany, i sometimes correct people on my name but don't bother doing anything else because pronouns in german suck. i want to get better about this though, i want to be out to people i interact with regularly and i want to correct anyone who misgenders me. but even with that, the answer would still be no.

"do you feel closer to one side of the binary?"

i'm nowhere in between, and i'm as far away from womanhood as i am from manhood. my gender has nothing to do with masculinity or femininity either.

"do you hate your body?"

there are individual parts of my body that i hate, and it's easy to turn that aggression, anger and frustration into a blanket "i hate my body", but that's not really true. there are way more things about my body that i love or feel neutral about than i hate.

"isn't this how everyone feels sometimes?"

maybe *you* just happen to feel this way and are projecting your feelings onto everyone else, in which case i have some news in yellow, white, purple and black for you. i do believe that there are way more nonbinary people out there than currently identify that way, but it's definitely not everyone - many people who have examined and explored their gender deeply have come to the conclusion that their gender is binary. the assumption that "everyone is a bit nonbinary" stems from misunderstandings of what nonbinary means in the first place.

"do you present this way because you're nonbinary?"

most of my presentation isn't about my gender but about other things like vibes, sensory intolerances or executive dysfunction. i have short hair because i can't stand the feeling of hair in my face. i have a lot of colourful clothes and bold earrings because i love being extra. i have some clothes from the 80s and 90s because i love the aesthetic. i don't do more with clothes, hair and makeup because i don't have the energy. not every part of a nonbinary person's looks are related to their gender.

"are you nonbinary as a rejection of gender roles?"

my nonbinarity has nothing to do with gender roles but rather with my actual gender. if don't think anyone should be forced into a role just because of the gender they are or are assumed to be. that doesn't make me nonbinary, it makes me a feminist. ironically enough, i unintentionally follow quite a few gender roles associated with my AGAB.

"does this mean you don't have a gender?"

quite the opposite. i'm the kind of nonbinary person who has an abundance of gender. there are many ways to be nonbinary.

"are you just a trans man in denial?"

one of the things that kept of from realising i was trans sooner was knowing that i definitely wasn't a trans man and not having other options. as a gender-nonconforming teen, this is something i was sometimes confronted with, and while i didn't know who i was because i didn't know there were more options, i always knew i wasn't a trans man.

"are you male or female?"

when you use it to mean "all nonbinary people are included in all orientations" you ARE erasing nonbinary people by basically saying we are whatever gender fits someone's orientation, rather than someone's orientation maybe being different than previously thought or simply having exceptions.

there are nonbinary ppl who feel included in all orientations. there are nonbinary ppl who feel included only in queer orientations. there are nonbinary ppl who feel included only in orientations that are associated with loving women. there are nonbinary ppl who feel included only in orientations associated with loving men. there are nonbinary ppl who only feel included in multi-gender attraction. there are nonbinary ppl who only feel included in orientations that explicitly include us. there are nonbinary people who only feel included in lesbian, straight or gay attraction from other transgender and nonbinary people. there are nonbinary people who decide on a case by case basis.

LET US HAVE NUANCE. stop flattening us into whatever fits your narrative. we're not a blank slate you can just project things on.

if you're straight and attracted to me, you're either not as straight as you think or i'm the exception to your straightness (like for my partner), but i am NEVER included unless you view me as basically a woman or basically a man. the same is true for gay men and lesbians for me.

Noun. A nonbinary person attracted (exclusively or not) to nonbinary people, or in a relationship that contains no binary individuals.

Adjective. Describing a relationship between nonbinary people, a nonbinary person fitting the definition of enbian above, or a community of enbians.

Enbian is similar to sapphic and achillean, but can function as a noun and concerns all nonbinary genders rather than a specific gender.

Examples:

An enbian relationship between a bigender and neutrois person is precious.

A bisexual enbian can be in a relationship with a nonbinary person or a binary person.

The enbian community is amazing.

i’m going to post questions related to being enbian, and you can answer them in replies, reblogs, or send me asks! probably we can even collect these answers in a collective document (or multiple documents). i hope this way we will eventually have a small database of enbian experiences, and it would be awesome!

i appreciate your existence and perspectives as nonbinary and/or genderqueer person. i want to hear about your labels.

i am happy to help you to try new pronouns. i am happy when people create neopronouns and nonbinary-centric terms.

Nonbinary love is beautiful and possible, diamory, ceterosexuality and enbianism is wonderful! Nonbinary self love is powerful, wonderful and should be practiced by every enban. Being non-binary is amazing, and loving enbiness is something to be celebrated!

You can be loved and be non-binary. You can be loved by others, both binary and nonbinary. You deserve to love yourself as an enban.

You can love nonbinary people! Nonbinary t4t is amazing!! Binary x NB love is wonderful!! Enbian love is an amazing thing, and far more needed in this world. It's okay to define your attraction to enben! Attraction to enben specifically is not fetishisation, that claim is absurd. Is it fetishisation to be attracted to men and/or women?

Celebrate your nonbinary and genderqueer self, partners, friends and family! Love them for who they are, and celebrate the love you share with them!

Whether you're fat,thin,muscular or something in between. Those who are hairy or smooth.

Shout out to nonbinary people of all races. Whether you present feminine,masculine or androgynous or a mix of them all. Those who present differently on the day. Whos gender fluctuates or stays void.Regardless of your AGAB

Shout out to Nonbinary people who relate to womanhood or manhood,those who relate to neither and both.

Shout out to nonbinary people on or off HRT, people who've changed their name or they haven't. Nonbinary people who use neo-pronouns and those who don't. Those who use contradictory labels and create there own labels. Shout out to those who are out and those who aren't or can't be.

Shout out to nonbinary people who are able bodied and those who are Disabled. Those who use mobility aids, hearing aids,AAC, or any other kind of Disability support and those who don't.