三法印

I wonder how I'll sleep at night

With a cavity by my side

And nothing left to hold but pride, will I

‪I'm tired of a Majority blaming the actor for their roles. Blame the casting, producers or editors. A bipoc isn't at fault for their melanin. Support bipoc artist. ‬

People of color do not have the privilege of being apolitical, because their appearance is politicized. Queer people’s private relationships and desires are made political, whether they want it or not. Women’s bodies are commonly the subject of political discourse, and it’s similar for disabled people.

No Future Without Forgiveness

by Desmond Tutu

I find romantic and platonic fairly useless labels. The more I try to define them the more they slip out of my hands like wet bars of soap.

In its place may I suggest that we think in terms of: what kind of intimacy would I like to share with this person.

Sexual? Do I want to engage in certain sexual acts with them?

Personal feelings? Do I want to share some of my private thoughts and experiences with them?

Physical? For example, do I want to hug them, hold their hand, share a bed with them, touch them in non-sexual ways?

Emotional? Do I want to tell this person how I feel about them, perhaps write love letters or ring them just to say mushy things? Do I want to go on dates? Perhaps exchange meaningful gifts such as flowers or jewellery?

Practical? Some of these things include: do I want to share a home with them, or own a pet together, or work on a project together?

Time? How much of my free time would I like to devote to this relationship, whether virtually or in person?

Title? Would I like to call this person a friend, a partner, or something else?

I think what’s important is to think about what you want from someone, and to what extent, and to gain an understanding of what the other person* wants from you; define a relationship by the needs of those in it, and not by the overly rigid standards society has given us.