May I request insecurities for submas and warden Ingo? What are they insecure about, and how/when do they tell their partner? How do they respond to comfort once they do?
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Also, for context, submas in my headcanons have big noses cause I find that very handsome
Ingo has his fair share of insecurities regarding who he is as a person as well as how he looks. Heâs too loud, heâs strange, he has a big nose, heâs bossy, heâs overly attached but also standoffish, he doesnât smile. Itâs easy to list such things, not that he ever really brings them up unless you either ask or something happens related to one of his insecurities and he feels the need to explain.
Ingo doesnât really seek out comfort in regard to his insecurities. Heâs very much an Older Sibling in the sense where he feels he has to be strong, never faltering, never showing weakness. He also tries to be a strong partner, so him talking about what makes him upset takes some time to whittle out of him.
He only doesnât hesitate when you admit your own insecurities to him. Ingo doesnât want you to feel alone, so he sympathizes by admitting some things he worries about too, thus you two can comfort one another together. Brains are strange and can be so mean sometimes, but they donât know everything. Ingo knows everything about you, though, and he loves every part
When you turn it around on him, cradling his face and swooning over how handsome and amazing he is, Ingo finds it hard to deny you. He blushes and sputters some refutes, but you easily disproven them with kisses to his big nose and ever present frown, with compliments over how reliable and kind he is to his loved ones. Doubts linger, and they never fully go away, but you make Ingo feel good about himself and his idiosyncrasies, and thatâs enough
Emmet is a lockbox, never letting slip the things he doesnât like about himself. He refuses to talk about them because he refuses to really think about them. He ignores his insecurities most of the time, and you only ever get a hint that theyâre there when he wrinkles his nose at himself in the mirror or falls silent when someone comments on his strange way of speaking
Emmet is hard to coax into talking about what bothers him. He thinks it doesnât really matter, cause he likes himself and you and Ingo like him, so thereâs no problem. Or there should be no problem. He gets frustrated for still being insecure when he knows he shouldnât be, but sadly you canât always just whim away these things. So Emmet ignores them instead.
Where Ingo is Older Sibling, Emmet is Younger Sibling in the sense that he keeps his issues to himself to not overburden Ingo, who already has so many responsibilities as the eldest. Theyâre twins, but they have their dynamics, and Emmet knows this, so he brushes off any concerns and tries to focus on being happy. And it works somewhat, until the bottle finally shatters from the pressure
When Emmet shatters, he falls into you as a pit of despair. He hates himself, he shouldnât, he doesnât want to, he doesnât, but why does he have to talk this way and walk that way and look like this? Why is he off putting and why do people assume heâs so mean? You cradle his broken pieces, soft comforts and exclamations of love a glue to help him go back together again. Heâs nothing short of perfect in your eyes, because Emmet is Emmet, and you love him. And Emmet learns to love that too.
Surprisingly, Warden Ingo is more open to talking about his insecurities than Subway Boss Ingo. Maybe itâs because of his amnesia, or maybe itâs because heâs so lonely that heâs desperate to talk about anything to keep your company that much longer, or maybe itâs a mix of both. But Ingo brings up his worries about himself to you at seemingly random times, confiding in you to hopefully find either comfort or a way to fix whatever it is he doesnât like (you never fix him, thereâs nothing to fix)
Ingo admits to you concerns about his appearance, his big nose and sour expression. He worries about people fearing him, he worries about hurting people because he is naturally too loud. Heâs also an outsider, and it makes him very insecure when he canât act the âcorrectâ way. You also being an outsider makes it easier to feel okay about his weirdness.
When things grow romantic, Ingo starts admitting more worries, concerning his age, if heâs a good partner to have, if you donât deserve someone better. Luckily itâs easy to drown out these worries with plenty of kisses and loving affection. Itâs hard to talk when your head is red as can be, after all.
Now if only he could understand why he feels so uncomfortable by himself, like he should be with someone else, guiding and protecting them. . .
I hope these are believable! Theyâre what I think the boys worry about concerning themselves. If only I could kiss those big noses <3
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