Rainy Day Musings

So what brought me to write about things in this Tumblr post was the recent Single Train episode from Valentine's Day from ye olde Game Grumps. Specifically, Danny's points around the 25:00 mark. (Listen to the whole thing, really. And yes, it started off at being about a Bratz game, but they get tired of it quickly and move off-topic)

I think he's absolutely on point. The old "better half" argument is one I used to follow, and realized how silly and dangerous it was at one point, so I moved away from it.

I used to think I'd be able to find someone and "fix" all their problems on my own, that I'd find another half to complete the circle and it'd make everything better.

It's not about "fixing someone." You don't magically do that with love. A lot of the time, it has to be the person who fixes themselves, ultimately with the care and support and kindness of others. That is the road I walked and I think it's made me a better person, a complete circle for the first time in my life. Not a perfect circle (nothing is ever perfect), but a mostly round one with a few spots to fix up. While yes, there are times I feel alone, it's no longer the crippling fear I have deep inside that crushes me.

That "perfect person" doesn't have to be perfect. They can have their own weaknesses, doubts, fears, flaws. They don't have to be supermodel beautiful, and frankly, I don't want them to be as I'm not really attracted to that. They can have moments where they feel like it's all crumbling down, and that's alright because in those moments, I can carry them until they're back on their feet again without it being a burden on either of us. Someone who looks at my stupid ears or pointy nose and sees beyond that into the person I really am, in the same way I can see them for who they are.

I hope some day I do find someone to share my happiness with more often. Until then, I'll keep sharing it with everyone who needs it, regardless of how much they need, and just be patient because these things cannot be forced one way or the other. It just has to happen. 

1: Do you have a crush at the moment?

2: Have you ever been deeply in love?

3: Longest relationship you've ever been in?

4: Have you ever changed for someone?

5: How is your relationship with your ex?

6: Have you ever been cheated on?

7: Have you ever cheated?

8: Would you date someone who's well known for cheating?

9: What's the most important part of a relationship?

10: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

11: When you are dating someone do you believe in going on "breaks"?

12: How many people have you ever hooked up with?

13: What's one thing you regret saying/doing in a previous relationship?

14: What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?

15: Do you believe in the phrase "age is just a number"?

16: Do you believe in "love at first sight"?

17: Do you believe it's possible to fall in love on the internet?

18: What do you consider a deal breaker?

19: How do you know it's time to end a relationship?

20: Are you currently in a relationship?

21: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?

22: Do you think people should date their friends?

23: How many relationships have you had?

24: Do you think love can last forever?

25: Do you believe love can conquer all things?

26: Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of?

27: If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?

28: Do you think long distance relationships can work?

29: What do you notice first about another person?

30: Are you straight, bi, gay or pansexual?

31: Would it bother you if your partner suffered from any mental illness?

32: Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?

33: Do you want to get married one day?

34: What do you think about getting your partner's name tattooed?

35: Could you be in a relationship without sex?

36: Are you still a virgin?

37: What's more important: Looks or personality?

38: Do you enjoy love films?

39: Have you ever given anyone/received roses?

40: Have you ever had a valentine?

41: What's your imagination of a "perfect date"?

42: Have you ever read "Romeo & Juliet"?

43: What's more important: Your partner or your friends?

44: Would you consider yourself "romantic"?

45: Could you imagine to date one of your current friends?

46: Have you ever been "friendzoned"?

47: Which "famous couple" is your favorite?

48: What's your favorite love song?

49: Have you ever broken someone's heart?

50: If you're single, why do you think you are?

51: Would you rather date someone who's rich but a douchebag or someone who's poor but a nice guy?

52: Are you good at giving other people advices regarding dating/ relationships?

53: Are you jealous of couples when you're single?

54: How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on facebook)?

55: Would you consider yourself "clingy", "overly attached" or "jealous"?

56: Have you ever "destroyed" a relationship?

57: Do you think it's silly to consider suicide because of a broken heart?

58: Are you the "dominant" or the "submissive" part in a relationship?

59: Have you ever forgotten important dates like your partner's birthday or your anniversary?

60: What's your opinion on open relationships?

61: Who's more important: Your partner or your family?

62: How do you define "cheating"?

63: Is watching porn while being in a relationship inappropriate?

64: Do you think Valentine's Day is overrated?

1) What images do you have set for your desktop/cell phone wallpapers?

2) Have you ever had a crush on a teacher?

3) What was your last text message?

4) What do you see yourself doing in 10 years?

5) If you could be anywhere else right now, where would you be?

6) What was your coolest Halloween costume?

7) What was your favorite 90s show?

8) Who was your last kiss?

9) Have you ever been stood up?

10) Favorite ice cream flavor?

11) Have you been to Las Vegas?

12) Your favorite pair of shoes?

13) Honestly, have you ever cheated on your significant other?

14) What is your favorite fruit?

15) Have you talked to anyone on tumblr that you could see yourself dating/having sex with? If possible?

16) Are you into hookups? Short or long term relationships?

17) Do you smoke? If so, what?

18) What do you do to get over your anger?

19) Do you believe in God?

20) Does the person you're in love with know it?

21) Favorite position?

22) What's your horoscope sign?

23) Your fears?

24) How many pets do you have? What kind?

25) What never fails to turn you on?

26) Your idea of a perfect first date?

27) What is something most people don't know about you?

28) What makes you feel the happiest?

29) What store do you shop at most often?

30) How do you feel about oral? Giving and/or receiving?

31) Do you believe in karma?

32) Are you single?

33) Do you think flowers or candy are a better way to apologize?

34) Are you a good swimmer?

35) Coffee or Tea?

36) Online shopping or shopping in person?

37) Would you rather be older or younger than your current age?

38) Cats or Dogs?

39) Are you a competitive person?

40) Do you believe in aliens?

41) Do you like dancing?

42) What kind of music to you listen to?

43) What is your favorite cartoon character?

44) Where are you from?

45) Eat at home or eat out?

46) How much more social are you when you're drunk?

47) What was the last thing you bought for yourself?

48) Why do you think your followers follow you?

49) How many hours do you sleep at night?

50) What worries you most about the future?

51) If you had a friend that spoke to you the same way you speak to yourself, how long would you be friends?

52) Are you happy with yourself?

53) What do you wish you didn't know?

54) What big lesson could people learn from your life?

55) If you could live in any home on a television series, what would it be?

56) What's your favorite Website?

57) What's the habit you're proudest of breaking?

58) What was your most recent trip of more than 50 miles?

59) What's the best bargain you've ever found at a garage sale or thrift store?

60) What do you order when you eat Chinese food?

61) If you had to be named after one of the 50 states, which would it be?

62) If you had to teach a subject to a class, what would it be?

63) Favorite kind of chips?

64) Favorite kind of sandwich?

65) Which do you use more often, the dictionary or the thesaurus?

66) Have you ever been stung by a bee?

67) What's your favorite form of exercise?

68) Are you afraid of heights?

69) What's the most memorable class you've ever taken?

70) What's your favorite breakfast?

71) Do you like guacamole?

72) Have you ever been in a physical fight?

73) What/who are you thinking about right now?

74) Do you like cuddling?

75) Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?

76) Have you ever experienced one of your biggest fears?

77) Favorite city you've been to?

78) Would you break the law to save a family member?

79) Talk about an embarrassing moment?

80) Are there any causes you strongly believe in?

81) What's the worst injury you've ever had?

82) Favorite day of the week?

83) Do you consider yourself sexually open minded?

84) How do you feel about porn?

85) Which living celebrity would you like to know?

86) Who was your hottest ex?

87) Do you want/have kids?

88) Has anyone ever told you that they wanted to marry you?

89) Do you get easily distracted?

90) Ass or titties?

91) What is your favorite word?

92) How do you feel about tattoos?

93) Do you have any pets?

94) How tall are you?

95) How old are you?

96) 3 physical features you get complimented on a lot?

97) Is there anything you're really passionate about?

98) Do you have trust issues?

99) Do you believe in love at first sight?